id personaly go to solicitor .......... when me and oh split up i was told as far as the law was concerned he was 50/50 to as his name was on b/c wich ment that all he had to do was give days and time to and from and where he would be collecting from and picking up from! and i had to stick to it! as again its 50/50 wich means hed have to have a say in the schools lo whent to as well and if i didnt want him to have a gf there when he saw lo he wasnt allowed ! we never had to go thro all thi as we got bk together but i know ur bro works full time and would have to pay for advice but its jus the once and well worth it !

Hey ladies, if the baby is only 4 months that means that your brother already has parental responsibilty for the child and therefore shouldnt have to sign an agreement. What he should do is get in touch with a good solicitor to make sure that the mother of his child is aware of his rights also to set up a contact order so that he is able to see his child on a regular basis.

Also keep on paying by cheque, all finacial issues do not need to be sorted out by CSA however if his ex is a bit of a wishey washey person CSA may be the best route to take.

Document when and how often he sees the child and keep all reciepts and paperwork that relates to his baby.

Good luck

As below posts have stated, encourage your brother as much as possible to pay her by cheque, or standing order, or even through the csa! Anything, but pay by cash, as she can then always say he hasn't paid her anything, which can result in him having to pay arrears if she ever goes to csa, or if it ever goes to court, it could look bad against him.

When I first split up with my partner, neither of us knew one anothers rights, So, I contacted My Solicitor, to find out what they were, and they said, Any court, or agent, will advise (although not demand) that the father gets atleast 6 hours access to the child, per week, providing that the parent wanting access, is in a fit state to look after the child alone.

There is also such a thing, as a Parental Responsibility agreement, which, if he can get her to sign it, will entitle him to dual access to the child, meaning he would be able to have the child equal times/days as the mother.

Maybe it's worth while him going to a Solicitor, or contacting The Citizens Advice Bureau, to find out what he can, and cannot do with regards to his child.

Hope this helps x

If you brother gives her cash then the only person it will benifit is her, this is because she will not have to declare that  sheis recieving any help from the father therefore allowing her to claim more in beifits, also your brother always needs proof he has paid her for his own saftey, best way is the CSA.

You wont really have any right as such to take the baby and care for in your parental home, things always favour the mother, but by the sounds of it she doesn't sound like a fit mother to be quite frank.

Tell your brother to keep a diary of everything that happens - every comment etc and if he feels the baby would be in a better living inviroment with him and his parents then he could get a Child Assesment done by your local social services, it can be very long winded and heart breaking sometimes but if he is as nice as you have made him sound he will do everything in his power to have the child live with him.

Hope this helps in some way.

x

I would be wary of paying her cash why does he not set up a standing order into her bank? If he starts giving her cash maintenance he has no proof he has paid it and she could claim back pay or anything with the csa.