Thanks Jaabaar

Good luck  and I hope everything turns out right for you.

  Sage68

Dear Sage68,

Thank you very very much. Your words have helped more than you can realise. I wish you all the happiness and many blessings.

Jaabaar

Hiya, my baby boy is 16weeks old, he has ds... he is the most wonderful little baby in the world.. Plz dont think that children with ds are hard work, they are not! Yes they do have difficulties but dont we all.. If anyone would like 2 chat feel free 2 pm me xxx Goodluck 2 all xXx

I am 40 and pregnant with twins.  They cannot do the blood tests as twins, so I had a nuchal scan at 13 wks.  The risks came back at 1 in 120 and 1 in 500+ so one baby  is classed as high risk. (I am now 16wks)

We decided not to have an amnio as there is a risk of mc- and I am then risking both babies.  And if the result came out positive for DS for one baby what would we do?  Not risk losing both........  So we decided we will rather wait and see.  If something shows up in later scans more serious, or something wrong with both then that would be a different decision for us as we already have children at home.

This possibly doesn't help... All I can say is if you had further tests and the result was DS, what would you do?  If the answer is nothing, then perhaps the test is not worth the risk.  Although if you would rather know before the baby is born to be prepared, then perhaps the v small risk is worth it.

I would never consider anyone a monster for doing what is right for them.  It is your life/your decision, and no-one should judge you, whatever you decide.

Lucy- we had a wee boy 2.5years ago and our blood tests showed similar probability.  I was devastated.  No-one seemed to be giving opinions, just options and I found this frustrating-In retrospect, the crying and crap time was necessary to make sure we made our decision.  We decided to have an amnio, paid for it privately to get speedy results and the results weren't clear so we had to wait agian- it was terrible.  The results came back andour  lad did not have downs but did have an extra chromosome and they couldnt tell us what this would mean. After two hours with a geneticist, we decided to see it though.  We had a beautiful baby boy and we still dont know to this day what it means.  I know it sounds crap but just listen to everyone and then think it over.  If you need extra info etc..give us a shout.  Best o luck.

Hi Jaabaar, 

You are not a monster; you have to do what right for you. By looking at all the options at least you can make an informed decision.>>

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. 

>Sending you a big ((((((HUG)))))>

Hi Jaabaar

I don't think you are a monster, your reaction is normal and if you didn't consider your options you wouldn't be taking the decision seriously.  Hope you have people close you can talk to. Whatever you decide will be the right decision but that probably doesn't help at the moment.  thinking about you.  Mags  

Hi Just got results back from CVS. Nuchal gave 1/23 for DS. CVS result was positive for DS. Reading all the pannels about everyone coping with disable children (which I greatly admire) makes me feel like a monster for just thinking of other options. Have been crying for 2 days because I just cant stop.

HI Lucy

I posted my nuchal results a while ago result 1 in 2 for Downs and 1 in 7 for Trisomy13 and 18.  I am in my 16 weeks of pregnancy.  We have 4 children already, our first two children were the result of fertility and the second two happened naturally followed by my husbands vasectomy [which after 6.5 years has rejoined] and like you before the first we had miscarriages so I can understand a bit of how you are feeling.

We thought for a long time about whether to have a Amnio and as previous advice we weighed up what we would do if the reslult came back positive for Downs and with our risk being so high there is agood chance it will.  We also thought about the impact on the other children who are still quite young 11 down to 6 one of which has Autism.  We decided we wouldnt end the pregnancy whatever the result so am not having the amnio.

We have been ref. to london for a fetal abnormality scan at 20 weeks and have also been told that we could have an Amnio very late on in the pregnancy if we wanted to find out for sure before the birth.  It is a difficult decision to make but whatever you decide will be right for you and your family.     Mags.

Hi Lucy, if it were me in your situation (which as I'm 41 I could be!) I think would decide whether or not I'd want to terminate the pregnancy if I knew for sure the baby was indeed going to be born with Down's or some other disability.  If you feel that you could cope with a baby with a disability and wouldn't want to abort it, then I think, especially with your history, I probably wouldn't go for the amnio.  Amnio only carries a slight risk of mc of course but it's a risk nonetheless.  However, if you don't think that you could cope with a disabled child then maybe you might decide that you should have the amnio to find out for sure. 

I hope this doesn't sound harsh, it's meant to be helpful but sometimes putting things in writing doesn't always come out as it would in speech!  Anyway, good luck whatever you decide to do.  xx

Hi Ladies

I’m confused as to what to do.  I’m also 42 and in the 15th week.  At 12 weeks I had a nuchal scan and bloods done.  Before the scan the genetic counsellor (we live in US at the mo) told us that my risk based on age for DS was 1/34.  Had the scan and the doctor said you have a fine looking baby in there.  Everything was as it should be.  The measurement of nuchal fold was 1.3mm which is a good measurement.  Then I had the blood test (not sure of its name but they test for protein and hormone levels and take the blood from the finger).  I waited one week for the results.  My doctor called me and said my combined result is now 1/121.  I asked her what the cut off would be to show as a normal result.  she said 1/270.  We talked about ammio but I’m not sure.  I have fears of MC as I’ve had 2.  I don’t fall pregnant easily, been married 11 years and we have never used any form of contraception. We always discussed having 3/4 children,  we have a lovely son 7.  This is our 4th pregnancy in all these years of marriage and regular unprotective sex so really wanting to hold onto this one as age is against me!  Seeing my doctor on Tues for scheduled prenatal visit and I’ll talk with her about the ammio test again and may or may not book to have it.

Good luck

Lucy

Hiya, whatever decision you make together is the right one for you and that's the most important thing. Hope the next scan gives you good news, whatever. Good luck and let us know how things go. x

Hi.  W e have decided not to have any further tests because of the risks- not sure if right or wrong decision.  We decided that as we already have one child with autism and we didnt know that until after he was born and he is lovely that whether this child has downs or not we will still get a lovely baby at the end and knowing wont change the outcome.  We are having the fetal heart scan and really hoping that there is no heart problem. x

Hi, will you want any further tests to know for sure? If only to prepare yourselves, as much as you can. It wouldn't affect my decision with such low odds but I might want to know just to prepare. I know there are risks with cetain further tests so I would understand if you just waited for the next scan. Hope things go well and wish you the best. x

I wasn't given my nuchal result in that form - I was told that it was thicker than it should be & given the measurement (can't even remember what it was now), then referred to a consultant for further scans.  The consultant's really nice & I've had lots of extra scans, which haven't picked up anything out of the ordinary.  Obviously won't know for definite until baby's born in about six & a half weeks (declined all other tests), but I'm hopeful everything will be okay.  I'm 39, by the way.

Good luck with your pregnancy!

Thanks emmy

thanks for your reply.    I'm okish with the result becasuse there is nothing I can do to change it , the only bit that is difficult is not knowing for sure we are hoping that the heart scan at 20 weeks will give us peace of mind that babys heart is ok.

mags 

No, I'm sorry my risk came out a bit better than that. I just didn't want you to think no one was around. How do you feel about the result?

Hi

Am 42 and 15 weeks pregnant. We already have 4 children and hubby had the snip 6 years ago so it was a bit of surprise.

Now it has sunk in we are looking forward to a new baby but are a little anxious as our nuchal came back with a 1 in 2 risk. anyone else in similar boat.

Mags