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23/6/08 15:42
23/6/08 15:31
Hi,
I'm new on here, so Hello to everyone.
I too felt a little ignored on other forums. Still never mind as you all seem really friendly on this one. I am 37 and have 4 children. DS age 6, Twin sons age 4 and DD a big surprise age 1. Also have 2 stepchildren aged 15 and 16. Things are def different than how I planned but having a great time, although really busy all the time. Jo x
17/6/08 13:47
You know it's funny but when I was young I had my life all mapped out... married in my late 20s....couple of kids by 30...yes..ahem..well...the best laid plans and all that...in my late twenties I was having far too much to want to settle down... at 30 I moved to the south west and discovered surfing.....which became my main passion....at 31 my parents died which kind of knocked me for six....at 32 I took up with an idiot who I threw out fairly quickly after we moved i together and I discovered what he was really like...didn't meet my Dh until I was 33....got married at 35....had a miscarriage at 37.....and here I am at 39 at the half way point in my first pregnancy!!
Funny how life pans out!! LOL
Kerrie
xx
17/6/08 13:42
People can be so small minded can't they?
I'm also ( shock horror) unmarried - so it MUST have been an accident to conceive DD. Bah! Well #2 will hopefully prove that wrong - but I won't get the same thrill of seeing the absolute shock on peoples faces when I told them.
Even my brother asked if it was an accident. Makes me mad.
I'm just a young thing after all.....................................ahem!
17/6/08 12:32
Hi sunflower andrea. It is reassuring to find someone else who is the same age as me. I will be 45 in July and baby is due in September. Feel quite at home in older mums but read other groups too. I teach in small boarding school and most of the kids I teach have parents younger than me but my Dr reckons having this baby will take 10m years off my age as people will think I'm a 30 something. Bring it on!
17/6/08 10:13
Hi Selwyn,
I know what you mean about people's reactions to our ages....some have been like 'you're 39 and it's only your first?!!!' ...my cousin had a little girl 2 weeks ago at 42 years and one of family commented that she hadn't done bad for an oldie!! Cheeky so and so!!
I reassure myself with the knowledge that if I wasn't capable of carrying and having a child I wouldn't have conceived in the first place!
Take care,
Kerrie x
17/6/08 09:51
I've had that too - posted and it instantly kills a thread. Left the discussion forum because I thought I was invisible sometimes ( maybe not argumentative enough haha).
Nice in here though.
I was on TTC and the ladies on there are soooo lovely I miss them so still popping in. Hope thats not annoying them in there - I did ask first!
Funny isn't it how our age seems to mean a lot to other people? I had DD the day before my 40th and people kept asking if she was an accident when I announced I was pgy. Cheek! Wonder what they'll say this time as I'll be 42 when this wee bub makes an appearance ( I hope). I don't feel old at all - certainly feel more 'experienced' lol - but I was pretty childish when I was younger. Think I realise how precious these wee people are now. About time I grew up haha.
Hope you are all well.
16/6/08 20:27
Must confess I feel a bit similar and even contemplated leaving at one point....I am in the DiN forum...am 39 and expecting baby No 1 on 5th November...Don't get me wrong..the ladies on DiN are lovely but a lot of them are a heck of a lot younger than me and sometimes I can feel a bit 'out' of the conversations...also a couple of times I have put posts on that felt important to me and got no or little response...I know I shouldn't take it personally but I don't think you can always help but do so, especially with all those pregnancy hormones floating about! I teach at a large secondary school and it almost reminds me of that in that there are the popular girls who everyone wants to be friendly with and who always get loads of responses and then there are the people like me who occassionally get noticed but more often thaan not just sink into the background...I think the thread and ladies I have found most supportive are those on the First Timers Thread in DiN...and I have had a couple of lovely PMs
Anyway, I am NOT going to leave..I am going to keep on chatting to the ladies in DiN..but if you don't mind I think I will come over here and talk some more too
5/6/08 22:21
hi all,
im alisa, 38, due on 21st july with first yellow bump...
have to say ive met some lovely ladies on here...it really has been my saviour...
hope your all ok and enjoying your pregnancys so far....must admit im really begginning to feel it now, 46 days to go and counting xxx
30/5/08 15:11
Im really old.....45 Im old enough to be your mother!! Im expecting my third in November and I am high risk.. at the moment...worried out of my skull and wondering what an earth have I let myself in for!! Why are you high risk?
29/5/08 14:05
A few weeks ago I was out shopping with my SIL and her two year old son - woman in the veg shop asked me if I was his grandmother! I was horrified! And the worst thing is, I'm actually old enough to be his nan - my sister had two or three grandkids at my age - I just hope people don't think that when I'm out with this one.
29/5/08 10:58
Well hello! I'm new in here as just found out that I'm expecting #2 at the age of 41. Due in Feb so we'll see what they are like in there. Some make me feel really old as I'm old enough to be their mum too!!! Argh! lol.
28/5/08 21:44
I'll second that!
28/5/08 21:16
Wooze9 - of course all the ladies on DID are absolutely wonderful
!28/5/08 09:58
i feel more at home on this forum as im 36 & expecting my 3rd baby.
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28/5/08 00:12
i ve just got to say this ive jumped from forums to forums and older mums to be are much nicer people to talk to
27/5/08 23:05
I often find myself browsing through a lot of threads but not really feeling I want to answer them because I feel like my answer wouldn't be appropriate or often its a subject which just holds no interest to me or the answer I'd give would come across as patronising to the younger mums to be or first timers. Does that make sense lol! Also as this is my 4th baby, there's only so many times I feel like answering posts like how many sleepsuits will you need or where are you going to have your baby iykwim. A lot of threads seem to keep popping up in the due in forums & if you've answered it once you kind of feel like you're repeating yourself (although it is to a new group of people) - does that sound really bad?
26/5/08 08:44
I'm glad it's not just me that feels like that. I'm on the DIN forum too and although a few do reply and are lovely, it does feel a little like this the rest of the time. Still, older and more mature, that's us!!!
25/5/08 23:29
Hi Noodle, I know what you mean, I felt similar with baby no. 2 on the due in july 2004 forum. I never really seemed to click with anyone although I posted often, in fact I felt one way to definitely kill a thread was for me to post in it lol! I know that lots of the ladies from there still chat now but I just didn't seem to really 'fit in' for some reason. Sometimes you can just be unlucky & it seems everyone is already getting along well by the time you join a forum or that the people posting just have really different personalities or points of view to your own but I doubt they're ignoring you on purpose. I've since been in due in sept 2006 & now I'm in due in dec with Kathryn & everyone seems pretty friendly. I don't think I post quite as much as some people, I don't have enough time & often disappear for a few days whereas a lot of people seem to be on constantly & posting in every thread which I suppose makes a difference. Anyway, waffle over, you're very welcome here & if you ever feel you're being ignored just bump the thread & make sure you're not xXx
Karen (12+3)
21/5/08 09:34
just saying hi hunni xx
Hi,
Just realised I posted on older mums to be instead of just older mums. Silly me, it's because of the loss of brain cells after all those children. Jo x