Hi hun,

I know exactly where you are coming from & how you are feeling.

When I had my son in Dec 07 I put on 4 stone which took me up to 12st 7 as I am only 5ft 2 myself I felt very uncomfortable as I was a size 8 before I fell pregnant,I remember going to my mums on xmas day & felt like an elephant & was still in my maternity clothes as nothing fitted me & I continued to wear these for some time afterwards.

At the end of Jan this year I was determined to shift this weight & I started the slimfast plan & started exercising a few months later (i had a c-sec so wasn't allowed to exercise straight away) & now after all the hard work it has finally paid off as I  am now back into my size 8's.

It has not been an easy road to follow & is still hard trying not to go back into my old eating habits but I feel so much better in myself & finally have my confidence back.

Good luck hun in whatever you decide.

I know exactly how you feel, I am just over 5 foot  and at the moment weight 12stone 3 pound, when i had lo 8 months ago I decided to breastfeed which is going well still but it made me hungrier and I could eat one of those huge bars of chocolate in one sitting (why do they taste so nice) anyway I started ww when in april and have lost just over 1.5 stone but for the past month i havent lost anything and have gave up ww for financial reasons and going back to work soon so wont have the time, I feel proud of myself for loosing that but I still feel really fat and ugly and hate myself for it I really want to loss so much more  esp as everyone around me is slimmer but its so hard esp when you are at home all day and you just tend to pick and you have a hubby that can eat and eat and eat and not put on an onz and even eat so much rubbish. Anyway some help I have loads of the ww books and I entend to try to do this on my own so if you want a buddy thats in the same situation then maybe we could help each other online when you need some one to talk to we can both have a moan to each other and share receipies and ideas, I keep saying that everyday I will go for a walk but I dont maybe I should and this will help I just need some one to help push me into action some times esp when having a bad day or week or month in my case I know I can do it and I know that you can do it, it just takes support from everyone around you.

I am here if you need me

Another top tip hon - don't be doing this for your husband because it won't happen. Do it for YOU because YOU want to. We really are in the same place, all of us want to lose weight to look better, be fitter, be healthier and we can do it even if we have the odd bad day/week, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

thanx dilly think some support and advice with people similar 2 me is wat i need. my hubby doesnt really help me or try 2 understand how the weight makes me feel but i no he does want me 2 loose weight as i am alot bigger than wen we 1st met years ago.

well think its time i did it. it sounded like a really good tip 2 set myself goals of loosin half a stone each time     that sounds possible and not so daunting

thank you   xxx

Ok honey lets get you on this forum with loads of support and lovely ladies in the same boat and we will drag you through kicking and screaming!!! You need to take into account you've recently had a lovely little baby so don't let your weight become the be all and end all of everything. It takes a long long time for your body to get back to "normal" so firstly please don't be too hard on yourself. Secondly please just take each day at a time and if you fall off the wagon don't see it that you've failed just that you've had a not so good day and tomorrow is another one! Take your weight loss half a stone at a time and don't look beyond that or it will seem too much to do. Try and plan a day or two ahead and always have things you can snack on if you feel hungry that way it may help you to stop reaching for the quick and easy crisps, choccy etc. I am on the SW thread and find it such a help. I've had great weeks and I've had crap weeks but there is always someone to raise a smile and share experiences and believe me it does help to know I'm not the only one that has bad days!!! I presume I can't do it and everyone else can which is silly. Put as much effort into telling yourself you can do instead of telling yourself you can't do it and you're halfway there!!! Good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

thanx i have still got my ww books i think will have 2 dig them out and try and follow it again i think the reason i did well with it last timewas cus of the weigh ins tho. i guess i gotta stop thinkin and talkin about it and jus do it.

you sound like u r doin really well with ur weight loss anyway well done, thanx 4 ur reply xxx

I completely understand what you're talking about. After my dd was born I was desperate to lose the weight but carried on eating masses (partly as I was bf but partly due to boredom as well). Once I stopped bf at 4 months I started doing WW at home by myself. I'd got the books from before and printed out my own chart for tracking points. Although the weight loss has been slow I've managed to lose 1 and a half stone in 4 months. I find what really helps is writing down everything I eat and adding up their points, eating smaller portions and not banning any foods if I fancy them. This is not to say that I haven't binged - 2 weeks ago I had choc everyday and loads of rubbish. I put on 2lbs that week but made an effort the next.

Sorry if I've rambled on. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and to not be too hard on yourself.  People said to be "you've just had a baby so don't worry" - personally that didn't help. I felt so much better when I felt that I was actually doing something to help myself. Happy mum = happy baby!

Good luck x

i am so desperate to loose  weight but feel like it will never happen. i was overwieght b4 i had lo 6weeks ago but since i had him ive put even more wieght on im sure i dont even dare wiegh myself. didnt actually put the weight on wen pregnant it has been since ive had him.

im not very happy and dont feel very confident with my looks because of the weight. i feel paranoid where ever  i go feel like every1 is looking at me thinkin how fat i look.

i am not massively over wight but do really need 2 loose it i am a size 16 but am actually really small im just over 5ft 1 so i look alot bigger. i just dream of being slim 1 day and feel attractive. i no that sounds stupid.

anyway wenever i have tried dietig b4 i always fail the only time i have sucseeded b4 was wen ii went 2 weight watchers i lost over 2 stone the problem is i cant afford 2 go 2 the classes at the min as bein on maternity leave.

just wondered if any1 has any tips or ideas of how i can get started in the mean time. it seems like everytime i think bout it i jus tell myself i will never b able to do it anyway and end up eatin things i shudnt. think my problem is bordem eating 2.

any help or support appreciated please im sick of bein fat