confused nanny
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13/5/08 13:31
13/5/08 11:57
I have a fantastic relationship with my mother and my mother-in-law, but this is my rule: If we are all together with DS then what I say goes, I will not be contradicted in front of my child even if I am wrong. But if I am not there then they are in charge of DS, I completely trust them, but would appreciate it if he could get vegetables every now and again please, but I will accept chocolate biscuits for supper if that's what makes them both happy - surely that's what grandparents are for?
13/5/08 07:11
ladies after reading all the in-law/ gp threads i find myself a little confused. some of your threads are complaints about gp not caring enough or helping out or not seeing thier gk , and then there are some that say gp/ils are too hands on and interfering. it seems we try to help and be there for our gk its taken as being interfering and if we stand back and let you get on with it it is seen as not caring. could anyone define what in your thoughts would be the perfect gp/ils. just so we know .
A lot of the threads on here are about the two extremes - not giving a toss and taking over!!!!
Really we are all striving for a happy medium.
However, generally there are not too many threads on here about when everything is going well because it's a discussion forum. It's better than venting at the Grandma because that would not be good for relations.
Personally I feel what the mum of the baby likes should be the way forward as it's her children. However, compromise is also required on both sides and some lip biting if there are differences. Like I said though, Bounty is not for biting our lips but discussing, getting advice and having a moan like we do to our friends at home!!!
It is difficult when families don't get on, I've resigned myself to the fact that you can work at the relationship to make it a little better but sometimes it just won't be happy all the time. I'm afriad that's life and we get people at work, down the pub etc that we don't like but we don't have to live in such close proximity to them!!