I just think you should ask yourself why now? She obviously cant be botherd! Why is it we all cant find a happy medium!? GP's what do show an intrest but keep opinions to themselfs!

I believe if they wont be a positive influence they shouldnt be involved. Dps parents were terrible to him treat him like muck he doesnt stick up for them at all he sticks up for me and dd (they threatened me whne i was pregnanyt, long story). I will not allow them around dd or the baby im carrying now their behaviour has made them lose out. My children have grandparents and peopel who love them , positive role models and wont miss  out on not having them around. 

Right, you know they have been bad parents, and even so your DP agrees with them (typical bloke..mine was the same).

Prove yourself for 1 hour to be the better person. Agree to take you ds to see his grandparents, just grin and bare it.

Because your ds will wonder why he hasn't got grandparents etc. Make an agreement initially to go aroun once a month for an hour. It gives you the upper hand, and keeps you in DP s good books.

Both of mine love their grandparents, but my MIL wanted a girl as none on the family for 5 generations, so ignored him despite being her only childs child, and we lived 4 door away, she wa a head of mental health for our area, yet I had PND and she never noticed as she didn't bother with us.

I then had dd and they wanted full contact, and I just kept as it was for ds....that bugged them...they set the limits....they lost out.

Stick to your guns, she has no right after all that time!

mine neither dustyrose i wouldnt inflict them on my child no way!

my mil doesnt see our lo as she a manipulative witch

My dps parents have been horrible parents (not just my opinion every1 agrees abuse involved). They have 3 boys.

Once I was pregnant all I heard of mil was i want a girl even after i found out i was having a boy. After lo was born she came 2 the hospital but then that was it 4 6wks.

she came down to see him when he was 6 week old n couldnt even remember his name. his first christmas and now birthday have been and gone without bein acknowledged. Dp still sees them so ther is no excuse.

Now mil has telephoned cryin because her friend ahs printed a pic off facebook of dp & ds and framed it for her and she wants 2 see him. iv said no because he has literally has been ignored (last time they seen him was nov) plus i dont like them so they cant come to our house n lo is defo not going t ther house because of abuse issues etc.

dp has surprise surprise took her side & thinks im cruel because my parents see him all the time.

am i right to say no???