hello,crashin from din and read this thread,my mum n dad are devorced too and since he met his new bird he hasnt bothered with my two or bin remotly interested in one due in nov,he used to come 3 times a week to see dd but that stopped and hes only seen ds 2 times since hes bin born 16mths ago once when he was a week old and once when he was 4 mths old theyve hwad no birthday cards no nothing for past 14mths and ohs mum n dad can go weeks too without seeing them.but i do agree with sammy my kids are no less loved than if they saw them everyday yes is it annoying but i aint stressin myself out over it.x

Yeah - I had a close relationship with my grandparents too, and they had massive positive influances on my life, so I feel sad for my two that they wont have the same - Also dp saw his grandparents on both sides all the time. They helped look after him while his parents worked - and one grandmother took him to Ireland every summer etc - Yet his mum and dad are the ones who have nothing at all to do with my children!!

Sammy...I don't suppose you can miss what you've never had but most of my favourite childhood memories are ones spent with my Grandparents.My kids don't have any Grandparents at all and I really feel for them as,if you have nice Grandparents,it can make a big difference.

My son saw dh's mum in tesco and said "theirs your mum" to his dad. My parents live across the road from us and ds visits every day as my dad lets him watch spongebob and I hate it. I take my twins over on my mums days off and when my dad passes and hes not seen kids that day he pops in to see them and as they are only 21 months they still go crazy when they see him. My kids have not seen my husbands parents for over  5 weeks now and if they dont get the hint it will be even longer. They phone up on the day they want to see them and get humpty if we have other plans so unless we get at least 2 days notice now we will be doing something. I dont feel the kids will miss out on any love as I have 3 sisters and a brother and we all have partners who dote on them and they see their 4 cousins at least once a week. His parents are the only ones missing out as my 3 are very loving children and have a better bond with mums at my ds's school than with dh's parents.

my son is 9 weeks and my fil has seen him once.our dd is 4 and only sees him a couple of times a year. tbh i couldnt care less and i think its his loss as they are great kids and its him thats missing out. they are not bothered as they dont know him and one day he will regret it.

Dare i be devils advocate here and ask why it really matters that you lo doesn't see their gp's???? will they lose out io any way, or be less loved?? i guess not so, you can't base your children's relationship with thier gp's on the relationship you had with your own, life just isn't like that and they won't be any worse off cos they don't see them. It's you that matters not the gp's. I really don't see why gp's are all that important really tbh. May be i am wrong and out  of order, but i don't think your lo's will suffer too much cos they only have you.  Gp's aren't all that, you are the ones that really matter xxx

I know how you feel! My mil never sees my kids, even tho she drives past my road every day to go to work. She sees her other grandkids several times a week tho. She only lives a few miles away, and drives. fil is the same. My kids call her daddys mum, not nan. It upsets me for them, but I guess it will be her loss, as my kids dont ask after her, and have a v good relationship with my parents.

im in more or less same situation as yourself. my mum will come visit my son every day or every other and my dad always comes at the weekend. my partners parents,however, can go 4 or 5 weeks between seein there grandson and they only live 5 mins away. i cant say it really bothers me, its there loss. 

My mum is fab - she spends as much time as she can with my children, even though she works full time herself. Although she doesnt babysit or have both to sleep over or anything, she visits or we visit her as much as she can. But shes it. My dad (whos divorced from my mum a long time ago) Has little to do with us. Hes a taxi driver so will call in when hes passing for 5-10 mins max every other week or 5mins a week if we are very lucky. My partners mum and dad are even worse. We might see one of them (they are divorced also)  once every three weeks and then have little to say or do with the children. My partner has a sister and they are very much involved with her children. All grandparents live within 5 mins of us. It realy hurts and upsets me that they have so little interest in us and I had a close relationship with my grandparents and know that my two little chicks are missing out on that!!! Sorry just had to rant !!! xx