omg what a cheeky bint!! id tell her where to get off!! she is your child and of the drs say shes healthy then thats the only opinion that matters!

as for your dh... he should never call your dd those names, no wonder children have eating disorders so young these days!! and its because of people saying things like that! i know men dont always think... but you mil really needs to be told to stop this behaviour!

stand up for you and your lo honey!! and if she persists to go on... send her to me!! wonder how she would look with a fat lip lol

big hugs xxxxxxxxxxx

if it were my mil i would be telling her that if she has nothing nice to say than say nothing at all, shes obviously insecure about her own weight to keep on about your lo. if the worse comes to the worse then  just explain that your her mum and have spoken to the dr etc they are happy so your not concerned if she insists on making a point of it then not to come round as you dont want her weight issues to rub off on you lo.

Girls, I do not know if you have seen the program last night about little kids with eating disorder. It really conforted me to think that my mil's comments could have deadful consequences on lol's health. I will be firm next time the situation arises. I am not ready to take anymore of this non sense. Thanks for all the support. I know what to do now.

Sounds like you've been given lots of good advice. I especially agree with the last post.  It's so important that your LO doesnt start getting obsessed about her weight at such an early age., especially when she's absolutely fine.  let us know how you get on xxx 

Ceratinly sounds like the problem is with her. I think you just have to get harsh and take a different tact. Rather than trying to convince her that your dd is a normal weight (which she clearly is) remind your mil that she must not give your dd a negative body image and that any comments about weight are inaapropriate ( even supposedly nice ones-'oh you are lovely and thin'). If you hear her say anything you don't like tell her that you do not want to hear her say that in front of your daughter. AT least it sounds like you have a healthy attitude to the whole thing and you will be your daughters role model

Thanks girls ! Really nice of you to come back to me. I have explained this to my mil many times and even shown her the graph on dd's heath booklet. But i think that the problem lies with her unfortunately. She is really obsessed with weight and calls a lot of people's fat. (me included when I was pregnant). My mum is in the heath profession too and tells me dd is absultely fine. I wish that she could tell the same to my mil but it is a bit lost in translation as my mum only speaks French.

The craziest thing is that my mil always try to feed dd with unheathy food 9sweets, chocolate, meat fat, ...). Anyway, I am going to keep saying that everything is fine until I am blue in the face. But sometimes, I really feel like snapping that everybody is fat in her books.

I agree-you must speak to your dp and his mil. Tell them your dd is perfectly healthy and the correct weight and they run the risk of making her unhealthy if she overhears ANY of these comments. I am a healthcare professional and children as young as 5 or 6 can become concerned about their weight. I am sorry but these comments your in laws are making are disgusting! They should be grateful they have a healthy little granddaughter!

tell her what you have told us and say that if she cannot except her as she is then she doesnt have to see her. to voice her worries in a good way to you would be fine but if she is saying these things to other people that is not on. tell her to stop

Children have a sticky out tummy untill they are at least 6 years old due to the fact their organs are not all able to fit into their rib cages!!!!!!!

If she is following the middle centile for weight and height and there is difference in the numbers you do not have a problem.

Tell your MIL to come with you to clinic when you have LO weighed next to speak to HV herself if she that concerned.

Emma

sorry my rasberry was childish lol

could always take mil with you next time you get dd weighed and make a point of mentiontioning her weight to them when the reasuure you what you already know you can say to mil  " so now you know! she is healthy so there and blow a big rasberry lol

My in laws (especially my mil) are always suggesting that my little girl is too fat. And my husband is influenced by this. He started calling her fatso, buddha belly, my little ball. It really upsets me ! And I told him to stop suggesting that she is fat. She is not fat at all. She is an heatlhy child with an average weight. Doctors and nurses always reassure me that she is perfectly normal.

It all started when ny dd was a few weeks old. I gave birth to a little shrimp. However she thrived on breast milk and gained weight very heathly (according to baby clinic). My mil started asking if she was not too fat and what the doctors were saying about it. My mil has parculiar view on weight an apprearance and is highly critical of other people figure. Even my dh says that she has a bee in her bonnet about weight. She was a very healthy baby but the comments kept showering. "She is very plump, she eats to much, are the doctors saying anything ?

Even at my lol's christening my mil told my friends that lol was fat and she hoped that she will not be as fat as that when she grew up. My friends were shocked ! As a toddler, my mil kept going on about  it and she is even getting her husband to say something as I told her numerous times that lol was fine.

This started to really bother me very much. My daughter is fine but I am worried that she will understand what they say. She is after all nearly three and understand most things these days. I am so worried that she develops a complex about it and even become anorexic later on. Cases of anorexia in little girls can happen.

I am scared that she might even tell her that she is too fat and the thought makes me so angry. She project her own insecurities on lol and this is not fair.

Any idea what I could do ? I am running out of ideas. Anyone with the same problem ?