congratulations!!!!

Hiya ladies,

Well despite being booked for induction on the 9th, my waters actually broke an hour after my last post here on the 6th lol!

Had quite a traumatic labour, 55 hrs in total, bad reaction to pethidine, put on hormone drip as my contractions were ineffective and baby was getting distressed...but finally at 17.55 on the 8th my little girl Tegan was born!

As predicted my mum turned up at the hospital.., but she was stuck in the waiting room lol DF was fantastic and I couldn't have got through it without him, the pethidine basically left me unconscious for hours, and when I did come round I was paralysed, could hear but not move...very scary! They gowned me up for a c-section, but DF spoke up and told them i really didn't want a c-section unless it was life threatening, so they gave him 15mins to wake me up, he then got a jug of iced water and was chucking it over my face and forcing me to drink it, it certainly did the trick!

Tegan was born in shock and needed an adrenaline injection and resusc mask, but thankfully was ok. We didn't allow any visitors until almost 8pm, so I had a shower and DF and I had a nice long cuddle with Tegan before anyone came along, they weren't very happy to be kept waiting, but tough eh lol.

Anyway just wanted to update you all and say thank you for all your support and warm wishes xxxxx

Jodie-Lee, I hope that everything went well with the birth.  Do let us know how you are and about your new baby xx

Sweetie, you have been thinking of you this week end and I hope everything went for the best. The girls had good advice so there is nothing for me to add.

Grandmothers can get very excited and sometimes forget that their own children are now becoming parents.

I really hope that you did not get too stressed and had a great birth.

That moment is priceless. I still remember the little face of my munchkin when she was given to me ! Pure Joy !!!

Love.

How selfish!

I sort of wanted my mum with me when I was expecting my first but my DH didn't so I respected that. I had named her on my notes as a birthing partner because my DH worked away some times and if I went into labour early I would need some one with me. It worked out well because I started in slow labour over night with a large bleed so was in hospital a long time so she relived him for an afternoon so he could rest.

The way maternity units work now only your named birthing partner will be allowed on to the labour ward with you. If you let staff know when you arrive that X is in no way wanted in delivery room or on ward till at least 2-3hrs after birth, they will not let them in!

You can even ban a named person off the secure ward later, although that isn't fool proof as people going out will hold the door open if the unit doesn't have staff only operated doors working both ways.

With my later births I didn't want my mum there just my partner, she had our other children which was important.

Good luck with your induction, when I was induced with gel it only took 21hrs from first dose of gel to DS arriving, and I was induced at 38 weeks for medical reasons.

Emma

How selfish she is !!!!  Like the others have said, it is unlikely that she'll be allowed through, especially if you tell the midwives not to let her in and make it VERY clear to them.  I don't know what how you maternity dept works, but in mine only my named birthing partners were allowed into the assessment, induction and delivery areas. Visitors had to wait until visiting time, inthe maternity wards upstairs. 

To put your mind at rest, why not phone your own midwife and explain the situation & say how it's making you feel. I'm sure she won't want you to get stressed out about this.

Best of luck and do come back and let us know how you get on xxx

i agree with the others. Your mum will not be allowed near you. Even if you think you get through to her, tell the mw what you want and they will make sure. Even when YOUR baby is born it is up to YOU how many/who and when are able to visit, so please stop stressing.
It must be very disapointing that your mum owon't respect your wishes, they get funny at times like this. Good luck with your induction but hopefully bubs might make an unanounced appearance and save you the trouble. xxx

Hi hun,

My cousin had the exact same prob with her mum. So in the end when she went into labour she did not tell anyone until after her dd was born. She was also booked for induction but told her mum a later date so she would not just turn up.Maybe you could do the same and tell her they have postponed your induction for a day or 2? Or as sugar said If u tell midwife you dont want anyone except hubby they will keep everyone away. Try not to stress about it hun if you dont want anyone there you dont have to have them. Let us all know how you get on.

Tc Emma x

OMG... that phrase .... "we'll see"

Fact is at the hospital, they won't let anyone in unless you say you want them. They don't want lots of people hanging about, labour wards don't have waiting rooms anymore as all partners go into the rooms now so generally there isn't anywhere for people to wait.

Don't tell them that you are going into to labour. I know you are getting induced but to be honest it could still take a day or two before bubs arrives. You don't know what time of day you'll have lo either... they will only let partners on to ward outside visiting time and then if you don't feel up to it then get your other half to tell a little white lie and say that the doctor has asked that you don't have visitors.

I was induced on the Thursday, I had my son on the Friday afternoon, the doctors didn't want me to have visitors until Saturday evening by which time I did feel up to it, only my DH was allowed to visit. Let the midwives know and they will ensure no one comes in... it'll be harder on ward

You need to relax... or that baby will not make an appearance on it's own. Surely you Mum wants you to be calm and happy.

Have a stern word and lay down the law now cos if you don't... it will get worse in the future

Good luck

My MIL stressed me out about this when I was pregnant, she is a nurse so she could use her NHS pass to get through. I told dp that she was not to come near me whilst I was in labour or wait outside. I told the mid wife aswell. She never did turn up. My labour lasted 41hrs so she would have had a long wait!! Dont get stressed, you need to be calm and relaxed esp at this stage of your pregnancy, just tell the mid wife's and they will make sure she wont bother you. She will be a brave woman if she does barge in!. Let us know how things go. Good Luck xxx

Thanks feebee, its nice to know I am not just being hormonal and silly, and that there are other peope who actuallu agree with me!

Hi everyone just hoping for some advice pls, as my family, mum in particular! are driving me mad and stressing me out about labour, which, at a week overdue I am sure you understand I could do without!

Thr problem is I am due to go in for induction Sunday, and in my birth plan have stated that I only want DF with me whilst in labour, however since I fell pregnant my mum, older sister and everyone bloody else seem to think they have the right to wait outside the delivery room and come in as soon as bubs is born, my mum especially is saying she wants to be there when bubs is born, and seems to think I'll be screaming for her!

The thing is I don't want this at all, I have told them all that I will let them know when I go into labour, but that my DF will obviously let them know when baby is born, and that they can come up an hour or so after, so I have a little bit of time where it is just me, DF and the baby, I can get cleaned up etc, and try to recover a bit, iyswim?

I even had a long talk with my mum and told her I don't want her outside the room for hours on end, I am not comfortable with it and just want it to be me and DF, told her that her being there serves no purpose, and I want her o respect my wishes, which she agreed to.

All was ok but she has been telling my sister etc that she is ignoring me and will turn up at hospital as soon as she knows I am there, which is stressing me and DF out, went over hers for fireworks last nite and as I was leaving she said 'see you on the labour ward' to which I replied 'I mean it mum, don't bother coz I'll make sure you're not let in', and she just laughed and said 'we'll see'.

I feel so stressed over something that shouldn't be an issue, when we told DF's family that we don't want the world and his mate waiting outside the delivery suite, they were absolutely fine with that, so why is my mum being such a pain? Sorry if this seems trivial but I just feel that this is my baby, I have to go through all the agony so why shouldn't things go my way?