well ive been seeing this guy since i found out i was pregnant, he was like one of the first people i told.
he's stuck around since, and like when i was 6months pregnant things got a little heated and i ended up sleeping with him. he's still around today though and talks about being with me once babys here. but i do have doubts that he may disappear afterwards, although he probably won't.

xx

OMG its sooo frustrating when you get told you cant get help when you need it because you work!! I really arent that suprised when you get people who refuse to work as they get more help when they are jobless! Madness!! woohoo for the tax refund though i got told i was due a tax refund once and all i got was a measley £80 and i was gutted because my bf at the time got a cheque for a tax refund a few weeks later for nearly £500 lol.

Yeah its a shame we gotta go through CSA but at least we know we will get our money reliably each week and on time. I havent even asked my ex for anything before baby is born yet as last time we spoke on phone nearly 2 months ago i think, he was moaning how skint he was, and how its not fair coz he'll be even more skint when this baby arrives and i was like "ermm, me too!" and he reckons how ill be OK coz hes gonna be giving me like £20 a week and i had to remind him that that money aint gonna be spent on me but the baby. and whoopdeedoo £20 a week?!?! ALL OF MY MONEY will be spent on the baby and rent and bills etc.... silly boy

I cant wait to meet my son either. An old friend of mine who havent seen since i was 12 but we got in touch again through facebook abut 6 months ago, well she had her baby boy yesterday morning and hes georgous.shes put piccies up already!!  i cant wait to have my little boy.

Have you got much stuff left to buy then for the baby?

Woohoo its weekend

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hiya.. sorry it took ages i had a nightmare day & nded up leaving work early lol.. hopefully you'll be classed as a high priorty... i called the council yesterday and they told me no one would be bale to help me with my rent until the baby arrives - i said ok well im going to be homeless then can i go on your list.. she said there were over 5000 people on their list & its taken 2-8 years to house people & that coz i worked full time they couldnt help me?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i cried and stormed home. its all sorted now - im due a tax refund so if i get that ill just have to live off that with my wages till the baby gets here!

i know what you mean... you can have your 21st again next year lol... im just gunna go out for a meal with all my friends - ive banned booze haha i said if i cant drink then none of you can!! im sure they will tho... oh and im defo gunna be a 1 pint wonder when i can drink again.... atleast it will be a cheap night out!

yeh ill have to go through csa too   i wish we could do it without involving them but never mind! he still thinks this is all one big joke - he txts me and hes always telling me that hes out getting p***ed etc etc & it winds me up as he never gives me anything and when i ask he says hes skint!!! arghhhh its making my blood boil just typing this

it was so hard finding out i was preggers... but in my heart i knew that i would keep it but everyone was so negative it made it so difficult!! i wouldnt change it for the world now and i cant wait to meet my son .....

im so glad its friday!!!! 2 days off    xx

grrr bountys being soo slow this afternoon for me!!

Ay thats good your Dad is your landlord!! Well it is if you get on anyway!haha.

The council said they couldnt take into account the fact im pregnant until they received my Mat B1 certificate as proof which i sent them about 2 weeks ago the same day i got it. Ive called them up since but been told that everythings taking 28 days to be looked at at the moment and they will send me a letter once they have looked at it and made a decision as to how urgent im going to be classed as?! I just want to move into somewhere and get settled and get the babies nursery sorted asap!!

I miss my old life too but yeah, im sure we will get used to it. I dont know about you but ill be a 1 pint wonder once this baby is born - a proper cheap date,lol. To be honest im not that excited ill be 21 as was hoping to plan a huuuge p!ss up for it,lol, but ill just do something big next year for my 22nd Have you any thoughts to what your doing for your bday in august?

As if hes booked 2 holidays without even offering you any money towards anything yeah my babies father claims he will give me maintence money but i know he wont as well, and if he does it will be little and every blue moon as he spends all his money on booze as thats his number 1 priority. Its a shame but ill deff be going through CSA to claim the maintence.

I met the babies dad in August and things didnt work out as he had lots of issues, including an alcohol problem so we split up but i still kept "seeing him" on an off until December, between xmas and new years eve, when i finally said no more as he treat me like crap. I then discovered end of January i was 6/7 weeks pregnant

Oohh, only 1 hour and ahalf till i can go home from work and sleep,haha, im sooooo  sleepy today!

xx

I guess thats not that far behind - my friend had a little girl last night so its made me think about it more!  I live in a 2 bed place now, but move into my new place next week, i will still be sharing with 1 friend, im hoping it will work out!

Ive never been a morning person but i find getting up for work a nightmare now... i lay in bed for ages before i get up lol.

Lucky for me my Dad is my landlord... i have a contract with him etc so he will take benefits thank god.. Do you know how long the wait is for your house? There is so much to think about isnt there!!! I get so stressed out , i need to phone the council today but keep putting it off!

Thats been the hardest thing for me too - i used to be such a party animal always going out etc. I actually quite like staying in now i still miss my old life sometimes but i guess i have go used to it! I also really wanted to go travelling at the end of the year...

Are u excited - not long atall till your 21!  The dad came to both scans... to be honest i didnt really want him there either but had to put up with him. I do wonder how long he will last txting etc.. I wish h would just grow up - hes younger then me not 21 till july.. Since he found out hes booked 2 lads holidays this year yet doesnt have any £ to help me out! Claims hs gunna give me £50 a week once hes born but i know he wont! He gets me so mad i wish he would be more grown up about it all..

Im ashamed to admitt we were never really together - i was sort of seeing him for about 2 months.. hadnt spoke to him 4 ages when i found out i was pregnant! What about you?

Dont worry about essay lol.. ive just replied with one too xxx

Yeah i bet it does feel ages away for you, but its only another 5 or 6 weeks after me. Heres hoping it goes quick for us both. Im counting down the weeks till i go on maternity leave, i cant wait!!

At the moment i live in a shared house but its just not practical at all. Theres not even any room for a cot in my bedroom never mind anything else baby wise,haha.

Im just waiting for a house at the moment through the council as cant afford to rent a place in York at the moment. I dont have a bond or anything saved up. and even if i did manage to get a private rented place and bond sorted(not many private landlords accept benefits ), by the time housing benefits sorted out i would already be behind in rent and bills etc...

Well you sound like you have yuor head screwed on. I reckon ill be a good mum too and it doesnt bother me that im gonna be a single mum. I think its just been hard accepting the fact that my whole lifestyle has changed and will have to stay changed and i wont be able to do the things id planned anymore like traveling etc... at least not for years and years to come.

Oh, ill be 21 a week on sunday (29th June )

The Dads gonna be involved yeah, i just dont know to what extent and how much. He did wanna come to my 12 week scan but we'd had huge argument day before and id told him not to bother. Then the 20 week scan i wasnt happy about him coming but told him when it was teh week before and said he could if he wanted to but he "forgot" and didnt come, but i didnt mind though as didnt want him there anyway Craig was ringing/texting me every other day checking how i was, hows baby etc... but past 6 weeks or so he only made contact twice. As its gettining closer to due date i reckon hes backing off as hes scared ill ask him for contribution towards baby stuff etc...

Its good your sons dad came to scans. Do you get on with each other? Do you mind me asking why you split?

xx

Im am soooooo sorry for the essay x

Not long to go really then... Nov feels ages away!

Im lucky as im already renting somewhere, but a girl as moved out (so her room will be nursery) & i cant afford the rent, let alone bills and then eat lol. Dont think the council will help me till baby gets here Maternity pay is a joke dont know how im supposed to manage on that!!!

Have you looked into private renting, then claiming housing benefit or are you waiting for a house - we have a real housing problem here! Im taking the same attitude as you and just thinking im sure it will all work out......

It really doesnt bother me that im going to be a single mum - i know it will be hard but im ready for it!! I find it so lonely & find myself thinking if i had a partner he would do this for me etc! sometimes i just want a hug lol.. I hate how i get labelled etc for being a 'young single mum'...im 21 (22 in august) The Dad claims hes gunna be involved but will have to wait and see & he came to the 12 & 20 wk scan.. i keep asking him for help with buying stuff but nothing!!!

How about you? Is the Dad gunna be involved with your son?? How do you feel about being a single mum? How old are you ?

x

Me neither thank god!!

Im from York and im due 21st September - also a baby boy

Im worried too about how ill manage with rent etc... I dont even have a place to live yet Im sure it will work out in the end for us both though.

How are you feeling about being a single mum? Is the babies dad going to be involved?

x

Oh god - i havnt come across 1 like that!!

Im from southampton and im due 4th Nov - with a boy!!

Im so excited but really scared about everything, im fine about the baby its just coping with going back to work, money and paying my rent etc!!!

What about you? Where are you from and when you due?? x

Ive heard some pregnant women say of their experiences with men whilst pregnant, is that the men just seem to want to know what its like to have sex with a pregnant woman

Where are you from Hayley by the way? When are you due?

See i dont see anything wrong with that .. your lucky to have found a nice guy & its nie your still in touch..

I started seeing this guy when i was around 17 weeks... he really wasnt right for me or my situation... he had alot of growing up to do lol... Maybe if things had been different i would have been able to sleep with him!!!

I didnt find out i was pregnant till i was about 8 weeks gone, about 6 or 7 weeks after splitting with babies father and 2 weeks into dating someone else. - going for meals/drinks etc.. just gettng to know each other.

We have slept together since though, because hes been there for me since before i found out i was pregnant and it feels strange he isnt the father - He was there the day i discovered i was pregnant, and there when i was suffereing from tiredness in the early days, and the 1st person to feel my baby boy kick through my stomach!!  I still see him usually once a week but we aint a couple though. Its good we can still be friends though as hes a good man.

Hi,

This is the 1st time i have posted on this forum... Its such a hard situation to be in.. i personally dont see anything wrong with it as long as you are carefull...

The only thing is it being casual sex - if he was gunna stick around it would be different!

I found it really hard i started seeing someone but couldnt bring myself to sleep with him...We ended it as it was too confusing.

Im really finding this pregnancy quite lonely - i have great friends & family but its just not the same as having the support of your partner!!

Go with what feels right!

Hayley .. 20 +1 x

If your both comfortable having sex then go for it.

In my case, I couldn't have sex with another man whilst I'm carrying another mans child but that's my own issue lol! I'd love to have sex right now but I just can't bring myself to do it as such!

But as I said, if your both comfortable, then have some fun

but it might not actually be like that maybe they genuinly want to be together with you and bubs,  but i've co,e to terms with not every man is a w***er like bubs' father , 

Hi Nats

I'm also 28 weeks and old ex has been really supportive etc as baby's dad has done a runner but personally i just don't think it's appropriate to have sex with him seeing i'm carrying another mans baby and to be honest i don't need the complications as i've more important things to be worrying about such as money, living accommodation etc.  This guy the same as the one you are speaking about doesn't care he aint the dad but truth be told it's only sex he is after and once the baby comes he wouldn't be interested as it's one thing to say something but another to mean it and i know what he is like!  I just want to concentrate on me and my baby then eventually get myself back out there when i feel ready and not because someone thinks it's what i want.

This is just the way i feel but it's up to you, if you want a bit of no strings sex and don't think there is an issue then why not as lets face it the men are still carrying on even though they have left us to carry their child!

Hope this helps.

Sarah x

hi i am 28 wks and my babys father has nothing to do with as he got sum1 else pregnant and is playing happy familys anyway me and a ex have been gettin quite close lately and i am not quite sure about sex as it isnt the babys dad. it doesnt bother him the fact im pregnant and its not his but sometimes i feel that it feels a bit s***ty as it will probably be just sex (no strings attached) any1  have the same problem?????