yes i think you should tell his family you are pregnant and give them the opportunity to be in your babys life !

regardless of what he thinks your baby has a right to grandparents and aunts and uncles , cousins .

you never know they could be a huge support to you and believe me although im not a young mum ( im 31) i needed all the help i could get .

maybe you could send his parents a scan pic of baby and a quick letter with your details ect on it and let them take it from there

Its such a weird feeling isnt it, and coming up more and more now most people are discovering I'm pregnant.

I feel added guilt that I'm the one who broke up with father before discovering I was pregnant as it was only a short relationship and jut wasnt what I wanted. People have suggested quite strongly that I should give it another go for the benefit of the baby, like in this day and age it is still better for mum and dad to be together but not get on, than it is to be a single mother.

The good part is that I have full support of daddy and his family, and even though he does want us to try again is not really pushing me and hoping that it all works out in time. Yet outsiders feel it is right to pass judgement on our situation and not hide their distaste. Its so infuriating

i have been through exactly the same thing i was only 18 when i fell pregnant but was in a long term relationship but the babies father left me when i was only 3mnths gone. during my pregnancy i was working in a pub and always got the stick about being a teenage mum and about being single but i held my head up high and defended myself till i was blue in the face, now i have a beautiful 8 week old son and everyone is commenting on how well i am coping (being the yound single mum that i am)

I've not heard from the father of my unborn baby since November and being induced next week. I've not told anyone other than family and close friends who the father is and I'm happy with that.

I've not contacted him or his parents etc as that was his wish and I'll respect that. When the baby is born I will send him an email so he knows the baby is here but that's it. As far as I'm concerned it's my baby no-one elses lol!

If he wants to be involved, I've told him that's cool, if he doesn't also cool up to him. I won't force the issue.

If anyone asks about the father, I tell them it's Russell Brand's, they don't push further lol! Some even believe that lmao

Good luck, hope all goes well.

Thank you all for the responses, its comforting to know that there are many people out there in the same situation. I was starting to feel alone and didnt know which way to turn.

I have decided i am going to send the scan picture to my ex's mum and let it go from there. Its his choice not to be involved and i dont want anything from him but i do think that my baby will have the right to know his/her family where they come from etc and at least i can put my hand on my heart and say i have tried with him and allowed his family to come in.

I want to text him but i know he isnt going to respond and its only going to get to me, so why waste my time hey!

Anyway good luck to you all xx

i'm in a similar situation - 16+2 pregnant and was only seeing the father for less than 2 months, it fizzled out shortly before i found out i was pregnant.  he has been very heartless and cold and said he wants nothing to so with the baby, doesn't want to know when it's born, has accused me of planning it, of 'taking a gamble' on whether it's his or not, implying that i was sleeping with other people (don't know when i would have found the time for that) and finally that it's my fault and it's mine not 'ours'.  soo anyway...

i'm thinking of texting him and asking if he wants to meet up and discuss things (legal, financial and medical things) but i may not do this.  either way i know for a fact he won't tell his family as he told me he wouldn't so i've done a bit of detective work and found his sister on facebook who i'm going to message and tell when the baby's born and she can pass the message and my number to their parents.  that way the ball's in their court, i've done all i can.  i know i'll get a huge backlash from him when he finds out what i've done but my son/daughter has a right to know who half their family is, just like his parents deserve to know they'll have a grandchild.

sorry for the essay but had to explain it!

i think you should contact the parents.

Laura

well when i told the father of my baby, he was keen on abortion, and so was i at the time, until i decided a couple of days later it wasnt for me, so i told him.

he's not been around since and im due in 5weeks time.
when people ask i just tell them the story, he doesn't want to know. simple.
i wasnt with him for long either, and never anticipated that he would stick around either. just some kind of acknowledgement of the child would of been nice.

i mean they dont have to commit to you, just at least be there for the baby yeah?

obviously some men don't have balls. im 19 and a single mum to be.

i fit all the stereotypes!

i knw xactly hw u feel hun its hard tryin 2 tell people even tho u dnt need 2 xplaine 2 any1 4 sum reason u feel u have 2. i wud def contact his family u neva no u myt gt abit of suport off them

lea xx

HI ALL

I'm 15+6 weeks. am single and havent heard from the father since telling him I am pregnant. We werent together long and wasnt expecting him to be around but some sort of acknoledgment would have been nice. Anyway need some advice on the following

* Do I contact his family to let them know i'm pregnant, I know he isnt going to say anything as he is starting a new relationship

* How are people dealing with telling people or answering their questions about doing this alone? I have people at work approaching me to congratulate and asking me who the father is etc (as they all new I wasnt in a long term relationship).. How do you deal with the stigmata that seems to come with being a single mum (wouldnt believe that we are in 2008 - some of the comments i've had about single parentage i swear we are back in biblical times)