hi this isnt my form but im new 2 this and dont no how to make my own......can anyone help me ?

me and my partener have are own son(aged 1) and have another on the way. due 4th july. At one point we was splitt up and he had a one night stand. we have recently got back 2gether but just found out that another baby was consived. The mother of the baby is due some time in arugust but wonts to put the baby up 4 adoption.....me and  my partener has not long found out bout this, but he told me soon as he found out..

yes i was shocked, upset and confussed but once it settled in i realise that i wouldnt like the step brother to my 2 sons adopted and i new it wasnt what my paterner wonted.

we have recently been having meetings with a socail worker but she said my partener will probally have to go cort if he wont custrdy of the child and its goin 2 be a very long fight.

is there any advice anyone can give me ? as i am willing to help bring up the baby.and how coplicated is step perent adoption? please help

i have been told that you do not need a solicitor unless the social services people have difficulty but they will advise you. costs £140 per child. not bad eh!

hi, just wondered does this cost anything? been given a price of £2000 from a solicitor, but seeing all your posts, i dont even need 1..

Hi I'm currently going through the adoption process of my sd and ss who are 12 and 14.  Process started last June so has nearly taken a year but I contacted social services and they sent me some adoption forms and I had to put in writing the request to adopt them.  They then came out to see me and the children and my husband, just asked why I wanted to adopt them, what my history was like, my background etc etc, they took kids off to speak to them alone to get their views on the adoption, how they felt about not seeing their mother and if they had any questions then wrote a report. Had to fill in loads of search forms so that they could do criminal checks on me and s3x register checks etc. Took about 3 months for the results to come back from all of them, which are obviously clear, they also had to trace the mother to get her consent. She won't tell us where she is and her tw&t told me that I had to send any communication through her sister. Thought s0d that and let social services find her.  She gets a copy of the report that the social workers wrote which annoyed me a bit as no one told us they sent that to her and had all our details on it (not that we have hidden kids from her she's known where they are) but things like what school they go to their marks, interests, my family back ground fact I was pregnant all stuff that has nothing to do with her. Anyway, they then phoned her to discuss and give her the options.  She verbally consented but could have consented subject to access but she didn't luckily.  Then went to courts and an officer was appointed.  Gave Cafcass 3 months to go to get consent forms officially signed and witnessed as a cafcass officer has to witness the signature.  This has still not been done, they were given extention but have also missed that deadline so is now with the judge who will call them to court and make them do it asap...  Once the consent forms done they write a report to court and then the court set date for adoption.  Don't do hearings anymore, if consent given then adoption awarded and day in court is for presentation and photos for kids. If the birth parent not consented then Cafcass have to do a report and get information from them and discuss with both sides and then file report to the judge.  He will then decide from that report and social services report whether the adoption should be granted or whether there is another option like residency order etc etc.  If you want any more information then let me know and I'll go into more detail.... Hope this helps

horray its all going through at last got our first social worker appointment tomorrow   :-)   its been 2 years since we sent off our first letter   !!!!!!!

You dp or dh needs to write a letter of intent to your LA social services department. It has to contain all dates of birth, names and a brief history. Then you will be given a placement social worker and she will asses you.

How do i start the process of the adoption?

you don't need a solicitor. Ring you LA Childrens services (social services), ask for the placement team and explian what its about.

Yes bio parent can disagree with the adoption, but this isn't enough to stop it going throiugh

I think where adoption is concerned its a lot harder for a step father/mother to adopt if the biological parents are still alive.. Even if one of the parents aren't really around to see the child.. it is still their legal right to basically put a spanner in the works.

Get some advise from the solicitors, they are there to help and are very friendly.

The bio parent saying no isn't enough to stop a step parent adoption, when they have had no contact.Its looked at what is best for the child. Even if they aren't every avenue must me looked at to find them because if its not then they could turn up years later and claim pr.

Its not a long process, not much paper work it just takes a while as step adoptions aren't a priotity. Its taken us 12 months (that was very quick) from applying to a court date. We held our breath as our dd bio was contacted, but he complied (never seen her) but we were worried that as its so final, it would cause him to look at his conscience, it didn't, or maybe he doesn't have one!

Hi Sarah, my hubby recently adopted my son and because his biological father isnt on the birth certificate and has no contact they didn't need his permission, it only took a few months and was quite straight forward. If you have any questions feel free to ask and I'll help in any way I can.

Joz, I believe that as the mother is on the birth certificate she'll need to give her permission but if I remember correctly, if she refuses and you can put forward a good arguement that she's being unreasonable then the judge can let the adoption go ahead without her permission.

Good luck to you both,

Her biological father isnt on he birth certificate so im hoping that will help.

my husband been trying to adopt my son for years now we have got no where his real father has not seen him since he was 6 months old we have found out he cant legally stop it but system very slow to adopt stepchildren good luck to you both.

I was just about to post prty much the same thing, only i wanted to now the score on my husband adopting my daughter.

Her biological dad has never had anything to do with her so she only knows my hubby as her DAD, but we dont know how we go about my husband adopting her.

Hi,

does any1 know what the score is when adopting stepchildren?  My stepson was neglected by his mother when he was about 4 and has never seen her since.  He is now nearly 11.  He has lived with his dad since then and we now have a son 2gether who is nearly 1yr.  I just wondered if any1 knew where we would stand as 2 me adopting him as my own...would we need his biological mothers permission as she has had no contact 4 a very long time.  Any information would b hugely appreciated. 

Thankyou xx