babes what ever you decide, follow your heart... although its not going to be nice for the kid as it gets older thinking why didnt my mommy want me, but im sure if you pass on a letter explaining things for when his older it may be better

how have you managed to survive 6 months then decide to give him up?

have you talked to friends or family or your gp about this?

i was put into respite care and never returned to my natural parents as they decided they didnt want me back.

if you do this option you can see what your life woudl be like without your baby and if it suits you?

how old are you? and why would your lo be better off? do you have financial trouble or just you dont like him?

Sure you dont have pnd, go to the docs xxxx

Aw Jenny I bet your feeling really low at the moment and nobody should judge you, you need to take a step back and really think about things, when you first have kids it is really overwhelming and totally different to your life before but as time goes on you do adjust, im not saying thats the right thing for you to do but seek advice see your hv or doc and they can put you in touch with people you can talk to so you can decide whats right for you and your lo, you don't have to do it alone hv can be really good when they need to be,

sending you love x

Hm, you should be ashamed of yourself. You don't know this girl, this is not debates, you have no right to judge.

No real advice, but as an adopted child I can now honestly say (although its taken a few years) that I have had a wonderful life with my adoptive parents. I agree you should speak to someone first, but ultimately it is your decision, albeit an incredibly hard one. Like I said, no advice, but good luck whatever you decide.

Poor you.

What a decision to have to make. 

You say you want him to have a good life - with support, that could be with you.

You say you want your life back - as a mother you will have a life but a different life to child-less people.

You need to have a chat with someone and discuss it properly - there are many many childless couples who would love your son as their own and he will be happy and have a good life.

Whatever you decide to do, your son will be loved and looked after - if not by you by someone else.

But who will look after you?  Is it waht you really want?

Maybe you're just pacicking a bit as he's 6 months and just starting to 'do stuff'.  The easiest (imo) bit is over and now the hard work begins.

Think really hard and get professional help.  It's not a decision to make lightly or alone.

I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be for you think of doing this - you must be very brave.

Not sure I could of ever been so selfless - I'd do anything to keep my kids even if deep down I knew I wasn't the best thing for them, I'd fall apart without them - selfish I know but that's how I feel, so to admit you can't give what he deserves is a brave thing to do.

Good luck and ignore the rude people who pop up on here criticising.

Your very brave, I hope you get all the help you need to come to a decision. I don't understand the first reply as you have actually tried and made the effort to be a parent.

Hi Jenny,

I am an adoptive mum of a little baby.  His birth mum was unable to look after him and chose to have him adopted. I have every respect for her, and you, for making such a difficult decision.  It showed me how much she wanted what was best for him. I will be forever thankful to her.  I love my son dearly and I know that she does too.  My advice would be to talk to someone you trust, your gp is a good start, if you still want to go ahead, you would be put in touch with a social worker asap to get the process started. My experience of social workers has been very good, I know they did their best for my son, and for his young birth mum. 

Don't worry if you change your mind either - you can do that if the adoption is voluntary.  Sounds like you need to have a chat to someone about your options, if you have more questions, fire away...

I will not judge you for give up your baby, My friend emma have same as you, happen 16 years age, she was 21 when she have a baby and very depressed, her family have throw her out cos she pregnant young and not tell her family until she 6 months pregnant, she end up live in bedsit and not want baby cos no money and little support, she wanted put jame for adoption but doctor have talked her about foster care, after visit doctor, jame is living with foster parent, she can see Jame every months for few hours in family centre, Jame have have 3 different foster parent. james was 13 last one was bad cos jame have some bd bahave, they take his clothes and stuff, he left just pant on,emma find out and very uspet, jame want live with his mum again, emma have not sure at first, after meeting with social work, they agree james can living with emma's mum, jame and emma improve their bonding, james can stay at her mum house for weedend, emma pregnant again and have girl baby amy have good bonding, james loves her new sisiter, after baby born, james live with emma full time,

have you thought about foster care? you can see baby some time,

think she is on about her 6 month old, not expecting again

I have gotta say I agree with the last post!  How can you be so insesitive!

You dont know the situation!

I think that ladys who make this decision are very brave!

Hayden's Mummy, that was very insensitive.  You don't know the circumstances.  In answer to the JennyTylers post.

JennyTyler, are you expecting again? Just wondering.  It can't have been easy for you and I have no experience with what you are going through, although I am a fostering applicant with the eventual intention to adopt someday.  Have you spoken to someone about this?  If you're struggling, perhaps you can apply to have your little one taken into respite care for a while whilst you gather your thoughts.  I wish I could help, but please speak to your health visitor or doctor about your concerns, no one will look down on you, as you said, you only want the best for your child and if you're not in a position to provide it, well done for indentifying this sooner rather then later.  I wish you all the best for both you and your son and you're a very brave woman, don't let people judge you.

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I have a baby son who is almost 6months old and im thinking of giving him up for adoption as i want him to have more than i can ever give and i want to have my life back as im not ready for kids not yet, im not sure i ever really wanted kids. would anyone be wiling to share the experiences with me. You can pm me if u dont wont to talk on here