ajsmummy u could try private renting and then u could have a bigger house ??????? does this sound possible?

why couldnt u try fostering a nouther baby around the same age and sex as ur lo so they could share a room?????

im sure your heat is in the right place and you want to fostor children for unselfish reasons but possibly its not the right time for you. i myself would love to foster children but i know im not in the position to at present . we live in a 2 bed rented flat with our child and are noot financially stable at the moment it is frustrating for us both but we have to admit that we cannot offer another child stability at the moment but hubby is currently undertaking a 3 year apprentice and i am at college which will benefit our financial situation in the near future. then we hope to buy a house with spare bedrooms and then apply to be foster parents,

and you are only 21 so you have lots of time to foster children

oops that sounded  a bit aggressive - sorry.  I tried to amend it but it wouldn't let me for some reason.   I guess I just can't understand why you are so 'angry' you can't have a bigger house - instead of just 'disappointed'.   As you say, you are now looking at buying your own place so you can do what you want to do at that time with no restraints.  Good luck. x 

I understand where BlueJems is coming from. It’s quite logical.  If the council started to upgrade everyone in council housing that agreed to foster then they’d get loads of applications.  I don’t think this will attract the ’right’ people for fostering as there will be many people just going into it to get a larger house.  So when someone upgrades from a 4 to 5 bed house, or a 3 to 4 bed house and loves the house but wants to stop fostering what happens then? They will forced to lose their home or carry on fostering when their heart isn’t in it (to the detriment of the foster child).  Not to mention the stress of having to move out of a home you love!

I think it makes sense to say, if you are financially stable enough to have your own home with a spare bedroom then you are better placed in terms of being independent and making your way in the world.  These type of skills are great for pasing onto a foster child.   If you are still relying on the council to help you get a leg up on the housing market you can’t expect more from them.

Try not to feel ’hard done by’ for them not giving you a bigger house - just try and help children in other ways until you do get a spare room.  ...Unless of course you are only in it for the money and what you get out of it? (you don’t sound like this type of person but some people are).

hi,

Thanks for they reply, i dont understand where your coming from, i spoke to my husband this morning and he said we should just keep our name on the exchange list and see how that goes! we were on about buying our own place within the next 5 years so i will just have to wait and see.

Thanks again

Hi Kaleigh, welcome to the thread.  The thing is, there are so many people out there with large families of their own that are either homeless or in need of bigger houses.  At present, your property fits your requirement for your family.  I understand that you would like to foster, however, having big enough accomodation is amongst other things a requirement, but the council providing you with big enough accomodation is not.  I live in  my own five bedroomed house with one child and my husband, I'm 30 this year and am still progressing my fostering application and have been since mid last year.  I don't want to put you off asking for a bigger house, but to the council, you won't be a priority on that basis.  If you state that you would like to foster a younger child who can have a cot in your bedroom, it might be an easy route for you, however, all depends on the age of your own child.  Good luck and don't give up, just don't rely on the council for a bigger place.

Hello,

First of all im new to this thread so ill introduce myself, my name is kayleigh and im 21 fostering is always something i have wanted to do!

However at the moment i have a 2 bedroomed 4 personed house and i have 1 child of my own!

I have been to the council and told them that i would like to foster but need a 3 bedroomed house to do this, and they refused point blankly i am on the excellent customer status and i have never had any problems i know there is at least 5 3 bedroomed house empty on my estate so why wont they exchange me?

I have had my house on the exchange list for about 6 months now but nothing has come of it because my house is getting knocked down in 2013

What else can i do?

thanks