Hi Claire. I sort of understand where you are coming from in a way. I knew from early on in my sisters relationship that her boyfriend was beating her and also seeing other women behind her back. This went on for years and l thought as a sister, l should tell her as l did not want her to get hurt. Me and my sister were very close and used to go clubbing together. My sister took her boyfriends side, had a baby (The baby is 14 now) 8 years later she finally came to her senses and left him. The sad thing it she never had the guts to say sorry to me for not believing me. She went on to find an amazing man who sadly died 2 years after they met and on the morning of there wedding. From that day she never spoke to me or my mum again. She also never came to my wedding.

Surely your mum should not be taking sides and let you sort it out between you. Does she also not realise what this prat is doing to your sister. I am afraid to say that you mum is the one in the wrong here. I know she is probably stuck in the middle, but she should not be taking sides with anyone. I also totally agree with you not wanting to have the boyfriend at the wedding. But to be honest sweetheat, l am not sure what can change it. I just hope that you day is special, no matter what happens but if your family can understand that it is your day then perhaps they can keep quiet just for one day and watch you get married - Good luck

My sister and my mom have fell out with me BIG time because i dont like my sisters boyfriend, simply beacuse he beats the crap out of her, the bruises are really dark purple there terrible. I basically said im sick and tired of trying to help her out if all she does is throw it back in my face, then run back to him!!

Problem is shes my bridesmaid and she wants him at my wedding, my mom has taken sides with my sister and said they dont wanna be apart off it if he;s not allowed to be there, (as in my wedding) if i cant be reasonable in allowing him to be there. Im gobsmaked as this man beats the hell out off her, made her loose her baby because of the violence, is on drugs and im being unreasonable

Im so saddened by this as we all used to be so close i havent a big family anyway but my sister and my mom are the closest family members i have and i wont enjoy my wedding day if there not there.

i dont know what to do, sorry about writing such a huge essay needed to get it off my chest. x x