Im not sure what the policy is for only giving u an op if u dont want more children. I havent got a prolapse but i have got a weak pelvic floor and im currently having physio. The next time i go i am going to ask what my options are if physio doesnt work and hopefully i will have other options coz im young and only have one child at the mo, and so im definatly not going to agree to not having more children. Prolapse might be different surgery thow so i dont know. Id look online for some info, you may find sum1 that will do the surgery but they may tell u there is a risk of not being able to concieve again.

pm me if u want a chat

Nicola

xxx

hiya

you dont know what this means to me finding somewhere in this country where you can speak openly without having the embaressment of being face to face im sure some of you will understand

first a bit of history the boring bit, my first birth was an unplanned homebirth i tore quite bad he weighed 8lb, rather than front to back i went back to front all the way up and also  the inner lips have some damage too i was stitched up but not correctly and 6 months later  i went back in to be restitched not sure what they did but wasnt very neat bit gutting for an 18yr old woman!! any how after all this sex wasnt great only now yrs later have admitted to dh that sex was a chore and didnt really enjoy it it hurt too much anyhow that was 92/93, 2000 we had our second baby tore a little bit not enough apparently for stitches she wasnt particularly small at 8lb 15 everything healed up well and no probs sex was like it was before i had my eldest and was great again i had third baby in 2002 and things didnt feel right and was diagnosed with a prolapsed uterus had several choices, 1 do nothing 2 uterine suspension or 3 vaginal hysterectomy, i decided 3 kids were enough and went on the list for a hysterectomy i fell pg whislt on the list but m/c and again after that the first m/c wasnt planned i had a coil still in and when i had come to terms with it the coil worked an the baby was gone but made me realise i did want another baby we tried again and fell with m/c no 2 this was alittle more complicated as they thought was ectopic anyhow went to surgery but  my tubes were ok we tried again and had no 4 a girl weighing 10lb 4 my pelvic probs didnt actually feel any worse than before sex again ok but had to battle with the bulging and made me feel like a smelly old lady, had my last baby nov last yr  everything felt worse and went back to hossie i was told before that they would do surgery but only when i have made the decision not to have any more children i went back hoping over the last 5 yrs they may have changed their policies and my gp said i could have a second opinion from someone who may not give me the ultimatum of no more children i went to hossie they had lost my notes and i had to explain why i was there the consultant  (same one i had in 03) agreed that i had some issues mainly down to perenium trauma my dh asked about my prolpased ueterus and he replied that it was ok no surgery needed as it was as good as it could be seeing as i had had 5 kids vaginally we went for our second opinion as he wouldnt do the op without me deciding no more children, she didnt say anything about the trauma but diagnosed me witha prolpased bladder which i thought i had all along but thought maybe the uterus had somehow pushed the bladder down anyhow i know it is def this as i have trouble sometimes passing urine  have the feeling i havent finished and sometimes have to press on the top of my bits to give pressure to make me go i did this the other day and i must have pressed quite hard cos i ended up peeing all over like a water bomb.  i understand that they dont want me to have surgery done if i went on to have another bay and undo the work that they have done but also why should i face the next 10 yrs suffering like this just because i may have another baby in the future  i know i already have 5 children but as i have a large family already it is just a no and i wouldnt have felt any different if i had only 1 child and faced the same decision what i would like are your experience on choices and what to expect and also what i am entitled to i always feel intimidated whn i go for appointments and always back down to what i think they want to hear

salx