hi i got pregnant when dd was about 13wks old. it was a shock but me and dh should have been more careful. Withdrawal method doesnt work!! i didnt get excited for ages. in fact i feel a bit sad that just 2wks ago i was more excited to go to my friends 20wk scan than i was to go to my own. but now my boy is here i love him sooooo much. he is a mummies boy already. good luck you will be fine. i will say  was worried how i would cope always wondering how will i manage but now he is here its been quite easy.

hi i got pregnant when dd was about 13wks old. it was a shock but me and dh should have been more careful. Withdrawal method doesnt work!! i didnt get excited for ages. in fact i feel a bit sad that just 2wks ago i was more excited to go to my friends 20wk scan than i was to go to my own. but now my boy is here i love him sooooo much. he is a mummies boy already. good luck you will be fine. i will say  was worried how i would cope always wondering how will i manage but now he is here its been quite easy.

Thanks to all you lovely ladies for sharing your stories with me.

It does help when you realise your not the only one going through something and it's a huge help to see some of you have been there and come out the other side ok.

I just feel so sad that I'm not enjoying this PG so far, I hope that as things progress and I see baby on the scan and start to feel him/her moving around I will start coming to terms with things.

My ultimate fear is that I will still feel the same way when the baby is actually here!

i am 37+2wks with no.5 and still havent fully come to terms with it dont think i will until baby is born.

we have two boys 12 & 8 and two girls 4 and 13 months old. we only ever planned to have 4 children and with two of each were happy to stay at that. docs changed my pill when Milayna was about 3 months old and it didnt take to me. doc first said i couldnt have been taking it properly Hmm never had any problems in the past and have been on and off the pill for the last 12 years!  so then they put it down to stress as my mum died suddenly last a couple of months before i fell pg (hmm stress affecting pill? why give it to any mum then?)

i kept thinking to myself at 12 weeks ill be used to the idea then 20 weeks then 30 weeks lol now here i am now a couple of weeks to go and although i am happy about having this baby and we are all prepared its still just such a shock and i feel like i have missed out on the last 10 months of my youngests life she is still a baby herself

we dont know what we are having and cant think of any names we like but i am sure once born everything will fall into place. good news is i have a lot more support about having another homebirth than i did with my baby last year so at least with this last baby i get to at least try to have the kind of birth i want.

mara x (37+2wks no.5)

Hi I'm expecting #3, despite being on the mini-pill.  According to my dates, I managed to get pg despite taking all my pills correctly.  I had no plans for another baby.

I only found out when I took a test as I was feeling sick, and had been feeling this way for a week.  I'm a Christian, and a termination is not an option.

I was in shock for the first couple of weeks.  I was in denial for a while too, I asked the sonographer in my 12 week scan if there was really a baby in there!

Now I've got the pictures, I am starting to accept that this is happening, and bracing myself for looking after a 5 year old boy, a 2 year old boy and a newborn (miracle) baby.

hi all - im expecting baby number 4.

I have 2 boys ages 8 and 7 and a girl age 16 months - im 14+2 and this preg was a total shock. I was going to the gym 4-5 times a week, was 8lb away from my pre-pregnancy weight and feeling 'back to normal' and suddenly found myself not wanting to eat, really tired and just generally emotional - it didnt click  and i carried on at the gym, wearing myself into the ground, until one day i thought, 'oh my god im 3 weeks late!' i got a cheap test from the pound shop and it was positive - i cried and cried on and off for 3 days - i was already nearly 9 weeks preg !! Had my scan and all was fab, found out that bubs was concieved on a family hol to tenerife

One thing i can say tho i never ever thought of any other option than keeping this baby and was just scared of how ill cope - last preg was full of ups and downs and i spent 9 weeks altogether in hospital due to my waters leaking from 27 weeks..... then had prem baby at 34 weeks - Plus my DF works 4 nights a week, sometimes 5 and i was worried bout money etc as i was in the middle of jobhunting lol DF was happy - worried for the same reasons as me, but not as much as me and just said 'we''ll cope'

Anyway, now im excited but scared coz its gonna be my 4th c-section - ill cross that bridge when i come to it tho hehe...... Babys arent babies long and im just gonna have to get on with it, no choice! Anyway,  it wont be long until my children are all 21 (or thereabouts) ,leaving home and bringing my granchildren to see me haha!! A good few years i hope

take care all x x

JenJen, I know what you mean. I have five children three girls 20/18 and 17 and two boys 11 and three.The three year old has been having terrible tantrums and I mean tantrums,hes constantly naughty and just wont do as he is told-so much so I asked the health visitor to come and see us as I didnt think that it was normal-after having four other children,the way he was behaving it wasnt normal for me. I had an operation April just gone to remove an 8cm dermoid cyst and 60% of my ovary,the doc said because of my age and because of the op it would be very hard for me to conceive,plus I have lots of little cysts on the left side too.  We have just move from Kent back oop north and me and hubby werent particularly getting on, having only done the 'deed' twice one month.I started acting really strangely-very detached from everybody and very down-then my period didnt arrive.four days later testing on my sons third birthday I discovered I was once again expecting-hubby didnt want to talk about it and I pushed it to the back of my mind not believing it was true.  Last week I had tummy pains and thought that this was it either a period or mc,rang epu and they scanned me.I saw a very faint flicker,but to be sure they gave me an internal scan and bubs heart was beating away at 6+2. This baby is our little miracle and for the first time in a while, my husband was smiling.Like you we have been married 21 years next month and things were getting stale,but we now have something to look forward to.  

hi i am expecting baby #9 and with the first 7 i was excited about being pregnant and having another baby and looked forward to the scans etc, but when i found out i was expecting baby #8 i was on the mini-pill due to breastfeeding i was shocked and really didnt want any more children and i would say it took me until i was about 20weeks to start and accept the pregnancy, i didnt want anymore children so my husband went on the waiting list for a vasectomy and in the mean time i had a coil put in but then once again i found myself pregnant, i am currently 25+3weeks pregnant and still havent come to terms with being pregnant and even though i have had a few scans already and i also know that i am having a girl i still dont feel the same excitement so i am hoping that once she is here i will be ok, i have been told by various midwives that i can talk to someone about how i feel but i have so far declined ..

amanda 25+3weeks bump #9 xxx

hi my 3rd pg was a shock and so was my 4th,my 3rd pg was quite hard as my 2nd was only 2months old when i fell pg but was happy,

my 4th was hard to come to tearms with as everyone was like whos going for the snip(this was after the 3rd) and i was due to get married an di thought if i told any one then they would not come to the weeding so i told no one untill i was 11 weeks gone and then i did not want to they were all great but i would not be with out him now if you want to pm me then please do

....how long did it take you to come to terms with the idea of having another baby?

I am 37 & 11 weeks (found out at 4 wks) with baby number 5 and still haven't really come to terms with it.

I currently have DS 18, DD 16, DD 13 & DD 4, I also work part time and have long term health problems and I'm worried sick about how the hell I'm going to cope with another child and where I'm going to put it.

My marriage isn't brilliant, but then again it never has been, and we're still together after 20 years so I guess we'll be ok.

My 13yr old DD is being a nighmare at the moment and I haven't got the energy to deal with her so she is getting away with murder.

I just can't get excited by this PG and am not even looking forward to the scan, I keep telling myself it'll be ok and we'll cope but I can't actually get myself to beleive it.

I seem to spend at least part of each day thining what the hell am I doing, which is making me feel incredibly guilty as I have always loved every minute of being PG previously and normally  worry myself sick over every little thing.

Has anyone else ever felt like this but then been ok in the end?