hi well 1st sorry that ur in this situation.well to me it looks like there may be more to it than what seems.if he did love u why has he done what he has.u have the proff he is willing to cheat on u.do u really want to constantly have the little niggle int he back of ur head as to what hes doing.he text u and blew u off and u know why.personally if i were u id get rid.if can forgive and move on then great but do whats best for u and ur children.big hugs and hope u make the right decition for u

aw hunny sounds like a big fat mess! {{{hugs}}} to you...

It's so difficult for any of us to say exactly what you should do/say/what's actually happened. Everyone has a line as to where their other halves are allowed to go with regards to flirting/chatting up people etc and you really should think about where your line is and if he's crossed it or not. I agree with a previous poster and saying that he's text another woman 60+ times in one day is a big no-no in my books for my dp but so would even chatting with a woman where nicknames, hearts and arrangments for meeting up are concerned - especially as it wasn't mentioned to you. My dp's ex recently got in touch with dp's sis to ask for dp's email addy/phone number and dp asked me straight away if it was ok which I said it was - however if he hadn't have asked me, and I'd found out later that they'd been chatting then I would have been pretty upset, hurt and suspected something. I'm not saying that your man is def up to something but he seems to have been quite secretive and maybe a bit more defensive than I would have thought?...

Hope you're feeling ok xxx

he says it was all innocent so was he calling her sexy at one point and why was he putting hearts at the end of sentences? plus he said he had already stopped contact so why then if thats the case did he that very same day you confront him about it had he already seemingly made arrangements to see her again but then make up a lie to you about seeing his mates and not being able to go to the cinema with you? if it were me i wouldnt trust him as he doesnt see to be telling the whole truth but then again they never do, when my ex-husband had an affair it was with someone from work and he too tried to say that they bumped into each other and just got chatting but yet it went from there and he kept telling lies just to meet up with her so i divorced him but then i couldnt live with someone who had lied and betrayed me especially when i had just recently given birth to our 6th baby, i am now happily married to a lovely man so for me life did go on..

take care and i hope you get it sorted

amanda 33+3 weeks   bump #9 xxx

i can't comment hun as don't know u both.... like was said has he changed........ have u tried logging on to facebook again or has he changed his password??..... if he has then i'd say he has something to hide!!!!!!!!!!..... facebook has a lot to answer for it broke up my friends marriage they had 3 children!!!!!!!!!!!! if u need to talk message me hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I predict the answer to all 3 questions as a yes.

I would say he is happy with you and your child, BUT he is a m.a.n and they enjoy attention (all big kids at heart) and flirting is more exciting than anything. What I'm trying to say is... he may be happy with you, but flirting is too too temping and he may of got wrapped up in it without realising.

I think you have found out all you need to know. All I can say is, regardless of anything else that has happend, if I found out my fella had been txting another woman 60+ times a day, I'd do my nut....

I didnt want to read and run.

Only you know what he is like i am unable to say if i think he has done more than you have said as i dont know him to comment.

Has he changed as in going out more, spending time on the pc, less time with you all?

You seen to have spoke to him about the situation and you arnt so convinced he is telling the whole truth. All i would say is try and stay calm (i know its not easy been there) try and talk to him again asking the questions you want the answers to.

Sorry if its not helpful advice but i dont know either of you to answer your worrys.

message me if you need to.

hiya im louise and id really appreciate honest opinions on the following situation,

ok ive been with my partner for 6 years we have a 22 month old little girl and i am 28 weeks pregnant with number 2 hes the father to both children. problem?

in the middle of september i logged onto his facebok and could see he was in work on the computer  having a one to one chat with this girl so being nosey i stayed and had a nose, they started talking about how she enjoyed her time in his "silver bullet" (the car) and hes looking forward to her being in it again and things like how they enjoyed seeing each other and couldnt wait for the next time in short they were really flirting putting hearts at the end of sentences and kisses and stuff and my partner calling her sexy at one point anyway when he got home i confronted him i handnt shut the screen so i could prove id seen them talking and eventually it came about that they had been in town drinking in town seperatly but had bumped into each (they previously went out when they were 15) had stayed together and he at the end of the night went back to her mates house and slept in the same room but on different sofas he didnt ring or text me to let me know he was staying out and he never ever stays out after drinking. then the next saturday they met up again but it wasnt a heavy drinking session hes a photographer and was there taking band photos that was the night he gave her a lift from the club to her car and he says as she was getting out she leaned over and kissed him but that was all and it wasnt tongues or anything. apparantly they were the only 2 occasions they met up. back to the facebook thing at one point she asks if he was going to an arranged gig on the tuesday (after both saturdays) and he said yes but only cos of the camera meaning id let him go cos he was taking pictures she replied so glad you are with a heart at the end she then asks if hes going out at the weekend at which point i text him not letting on i was watching the converstaion asking if he wanted to see a film at the cinema on friday he text me back saying the boys were going back to uni on monday would it be ok for him to go for a drink he blew me off so he could meet up with her.........  so like i said i confronted him he says it was harmless flirting all that ever happened was that one kiss nothing else and he ended  all contact with her. then a few days later he gets an orange bill annoyingly it stops recording call and texts the day after i found out but they were texting each other up to 62 times day. okaaaaayyyy so what do you think?? oh and last week i found out he looks at porn sites at least twice a month........ 

so these are my questions

1) do you think he slept with her?

2) do you think there was more to it than hes letting on?

3) do you think hes at all happy with his life with me and the kids?

and sorry if it doesnt really make sense hopefully you get the general story and thank you to those whove got the time to read and reply to it!!