I went on there to look at that post, however got stuck on the campagneblow job one in need to try out lol

it is just a mixture of everything at the moment, I know that we have a load of issues that need sorting but he just runs away from things is idea tonight is just to go to the pub to make a point, he has tried to lie to me saying that he was only looking but came upstairs with only his pants on.

Have a look at the Porn thread in relationships and sex... alot of advise and opinions on there.

I think 'most' men use porn from time to time, and it is not because the sex is dwindeling, or because he doesn't love you or find you atractive... it's just something they do.

I imagine the fact you are pregnant and feel 'bigger' makes you feel unattractive and maybe insecure.... but you can rise above that. Nobody looks or feels more sexy than a woman carrying and making a baby!!!

Show your chap who he is missing out on. But don't blow the porn issue out of proportion. It's just naked people, it's not that bad.

We had a little fall out about the house not being tidy which is about the only thing we fall out over, he is getting worked up as we live in a  2 bedroom house and already have a son, the problem is he won't even talk about  anything when I try to it always comes back on me and what i'm doing wrong.

I made a real effort over the weekend we went out twice and made a real effort to look good as I thought it would help us

thanks for all the replies

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hi hun..... i wouldnt worry, im sure it has nothing at all 2 do with how he feels about u, his just a man, n they like looking, i think pretty much 90% of blokes look at porn, n its normal, im not worried if my bf looks at porn but i know alot of my friends are, n worry they would think about the girls when there in bed etc, id have a chat with him if ur really upset, but most blokes do it, n dont put urself down xxxxx

Hi

Just wanted to say we went through a similar thing when i was first pregnant, I actually walked in on him watching a porn channel whilst i was suppose to be in bed as i had been ill that day.

He was really apologetic but also tried to turn it around slightly which annoyed me. We thrashed it out and as far as i know it hasn't happened again. Apparently he was just experimenting!

I'm sure he doesn't think you are fat- could it be that he was afraid to push things in that sense with you because you are feeling under the weather? I know this has played a part recently (I'm now due and huge and just totally off sex!) with my oh as he is afraid of hurting me.

Anyway I don't know if it has helped but i didn't want to read and run. I would suggest talking through how you feel, its really important to communicate especially so early on in your marriage.

i hope you sort things out soon

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hi everyone not sure whether this one is a marriage issue or a pregnancy one!!!!!, I was signed off work this week for 2 weeks just with being basically tired all the time.

I know that a man's sexual needs are more than a women and I know regardless a man as the occasional "sort himself out time" but our sex life as been normal and also considered his feelings and needs etc

I have been feeling fat and not myself i am 13 weeks so at that stage where no one can see and also with the constant tiredness felt basically crap

I went to bed at 9 last night as I was shattered,got up this morning and tried to find a website I was on yesterday and found that he had been on a porn site, it as totally gutted me.

He is no teenager lad and we have only been married 13 weeks just feel betrayed in a way that he on this occaison wanted to look at young, slim girls and did not want to come up to me xxxxxxxxxxxxxx