Hi, Im going through the exact same thing and its starting to get me down now!

He says that he is really tired to which is fair enough but it didnt make a difference before i was pregnant (He said not long before i had baby that i was to fat or big i cant quite remember,)

I know that he works long hours but no one is constantly too tired and yes i know it is the same old saying but women do have needs, before i was too fat and now i just dont do it for him, it makes women feel neglected and ugly.

I had a c section so he wasnt put off by a natural birth, Im sorry im no help but i thought it would be nice for you to know that you are not the only one sweeti x x x

I was at the birth of my daughter and the midwife did ask me to have a look as the head was begining to show. I’ll be honest, it did put me off sex for a long long time. We did do it twice, in the past 12 months since the birth, but both times it was in my head what I saw, so it did impact performance and enjoyment. To be honest, i just wanted it over asap.

we were just the same and my OH kept saying he was tired, then i had it out with him and it turns out that seeing our baby being born by forceps really put him off going anywhere near me!!! he didnt want to look at the babies head being born but the stupid midwife insisted.  Anyway we had a long chat and he has worked on it and now its not a problem but its only the past few weeks that it has got back to normal (LO is now 6 months).  xx

Hi Ladies,

I don't normally post on here, but after some advice or reassurance maybe really. Dp and I have been together just over 2 years and have a four month old daughter. Since having her he is never in the mood for sex. We average it about once a week whereas before it was a lot more often.

I know that he works really hard, sometimes working 18 hour days and he says he is tired. But I am just feeling a bit like maybe he doesn't "fancy" me anymore or has gone off me since having lo. We have talked about it, and he assures me that he is just tired the majority of the time, or can't be bothered the other times. When we do have sex it is still really good. But I can't help worrying that something is wrong in the relationship. He says that he loves me etc but is just tired and is starting to feel old (he's 33 today).

Has anyone else encountered this? Am I over reacting by feeling neglected and like maybe he has gone off me?

Thanks