Yeah the men are not always on the same planet as us.

I hope he realises that there is more to life than sex.

Put it this way, at least it must be prettg good when your having it if he's gagging after a couple of weeks.

Hold on in there hinni and stand your ground.

After those few more weeks you will feel much better and ready so start again. The time goes so fast you won't notice it.

Reading these replies again does make me think that he needs to wake up and show a bit more respect really! Men are just in another world I think

It is recomended that you wait for good reason , the wall of your inside where the placenta has come away is an open wound that needs to heal fully to stop risk of infection.  x

 your baby is 11 weeks old and he is asking for sex, does he have a fukin eath wish loo bugger him luv if ur not ready then u dont do it, my little one was 2 weeks old when i had sex with my man and i was petrefied, i didn have any stiches after birth jsut some grazing however i was still very nervous, u do it when your good and ready

Seriously I would tell him to go and fook himself. Aside from the risk of infection, the increased risk of pregnancy, the fact that either it will be sore for you, or will be like him fooking the bath has nothing to do with it. lol. It is about respect, and that séx is not and should not be the bee all of a relationship. You shouldn't have to explain to him or make suggestions to him for alternatives, you no should be simple enough.

Thanks for the replies ladies! I told him that we should wait 6 weeks and that he obviously doesnt get the fact that ive just had a baby so dont want to any thing like that and he just gets the ump! Im not going to give into him but I am starting to get p***ed off with it! Oh and Kath I told him just to go and have a w**k

Just to add I waited 6 weeks with my first after an epesiotomy and 6 weeks with my second, and that was soon enough!!!

The doctor and Midwife will also reccomend to obstain until then to let your body heal fully.

Ovviously if you do it before then they cannot say the any bad will come of it, but they are the experts at the end of the day. They have seen it all!

crickey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! has he not thought of what you have just been through!!

6 weeks is the reccomendation for having intercourse and for good reason. your body has been through hell and back and i think your partner needs a reality check!

tell him to go and have a w***, and to think about the massive trauma your body had not long been through!!!!

i feel sorry for you. don't feel guilty about not having sex with him.

he is the one who should feel guilty.

no way would i have done it after 11 days either, think you need to tell him to buzz off and show a little bit of respect for what you have just gone through in order to give him a child!

6wks with ds1 and 13wks with ds2, no way i would have done it at 11days but i was stitched from head to toe

Didnt know really where to put this but as its about sex then I thought it might as well go here! lol!

My df keeps going on about having sex but im really worried its going to hurt or he might think its not as good as it was before the baby came. My ds is 11 days old and although I feel fine im really nervous and it feels like its the first time all over again in a way I already have a dd with him and felt the same back then so I dont know what wrong with me

How long did everyone else wait until they had sex after the baby?