sorry hun was a bit confused-doesn't take much believe me,lol!!!I would just have a chat with him really it really isn't nice that he's keeping something like this from you,good luck.xx

no he communicates via text on a phone he uses a professional camera to take the photos

Why does he take them on a phone?Not very proffesional for a job?Sorry was just wondering I thought proffesional photographers used cameras or maybe I have just been watching too much Katie and Peter.I would definetely have a chat with him hun and you sound very sensible and open so I can't see why he would hide it from you.x

the thing is that I have never felt more confident about us as a family and a couple. I really dont mind if he wants to go and photograph models and I think he would feel happier knowing that I know what he is doing! i will talk to him about it tonight. Everything is always better out in the open

If it is part of his job it's a hard one. I guess your just going to have to tell him if he needs to work take any jobs offered at the moment even the ones you don't like.

Emma 

for a job, he uses the photos for internet sites.

When you say he is taking pics of glamour models do you mean as a job or for private use himself?

The 2 are very different, one is a job the is for sexual gratification, in a way cheating getting sexual kicks from another real person it's not exactly like porn.

I used to work in a studio where they had local girls on the books prepared to take their clothes off perform sexual acts for photographer to take pictures of, some would even have full sex with another guy or girl on the books!!!!!!! I used to do make up for some of the shoots. Some were profesionals shooting for things like readers wives(bit of lie not his girl lol), but some were just doing it for kicks(I never had to work with them).

Emma

thanks hun, think i will just ask him if he misses it in casual conversation and then say i dont mind if you ever go back to doing it. see what he says!! will have a glass of wine first|!!!!! xx

thing is if you tell him you know (failed to think about this b4) then he will know you have been through his phone! just ask him if he is doing it-say uve got ur suspisions he is and then tell him you are ok with it! x good luck x

thats how i feel about it, i actually am not bothered about him doing it anymore as i know he truly loves me and our 2 dd's. how do i tell him i know? i want this to be out in the open

i wouldnt be best pleased to be honest, but you should be supportive rather than against it, if you trust ur oh then look at it as just a job (which it is). why he feels the need to lie about it is prob because you dont agree, have a word with him tell him you know and how you feel about it. he SHOULDNT  of kept it secret.

My husband used to photograph glamour models and he stopped as he knew I didnt like it at all. Now I know that he has started it again as I looked through his phone last night. I am so stressed I feel sick and betrayed. Is he doing it behind my back because he knows I dont like it or what? I know he would never ever do anything behind my back and I totally trust him but still why tell me lies? I did make it very clear to him that I hated him doing it. what would you do if you had found out via his phone?   GRRRRR feel so down now as I have only just had a baby and feel so fat and horrible