it can be for everyone to enjoy both males and females.

he is not necessarily getting off on them because they are young or slim or blonde or have big boobs. it is just the whole taboo of watching the act of sex no matter who it is or what they are doing.

i am sure that it has no reflection on you whatsoever and if anyhting it can be a bonus.

i found that if my other half watched it and had a w*** then when it was my turn later he would last three times as long.

just let jim know that by doing it when you are having a sex slump, or feeling low makes you feel bad, and that it makes you feel that you are somehow not having a good sexual relationship. as long as the porn and w***ing doesn't replace his sexual urges then it isn't a problem. but if you feel that all the porn and w***ing is having an effect on your sex life then maybe find away to encoporate it into your sexual activites.

put lo/lo's to bed and have a glass of wine and put an adult lovie on, see how things go. if he see's that it is more fun when you watch it together he may prefer that.

good luck. just sit down and have a chat about it. all will be ok.

Thank you for reading,i have been thinking about it today,i cant ive like this,fretting over porn,im going to have a word with him and TBH i have never really sat down and watched it,i just thought it was for lads to get off to,i will have a chat and post in the morning

Im kinda nervous,last time i had a chat to him about it we ended up shotuing and he called me a paranoid t w a t

I'm not keen on it,my dh used to watch it in secret and it got boring for him,so he moved on to internet chatting and then he got someones number and was texting her filthy stuff.It has really put me off as he said that after a while porn gets boring and thatwhy he searched for something else.Even though we have sorted everything out now I still get paranoid he will do it again and it makes me feel sick,I have nothing against porn and under normal circumstances wouldn't mind my dh watching it,or watching it together,but now if I was to find out he had been watching it I would be terrified he was going to do something else again.Quite sad really as I am quite an open person and usec to enjoy watching it with him,he has just wrecked it for us.x

Hey my dh also watches it sumtimes he will watch it on his own but most imes we watch it together

My hubby also watches porn, and mostly we watch it together.. but I'd rather he watch it alone when he's feeling horny if i'm not there, than go out and cheat on me, or look at other women because he's unsatisfied iykwim?  He doesn't do it often, maybe once a fortnight or when I'm away with work.. I think!  But i've made it clear I'm ok with it, even embrace it, theres no need to be ashamed and we all have needs.. mostly if he wants a wa nk and I'm not in the mood, I just give him a helping hand.. then go to sleep lol.

However, my mate and her fiance were struggling a bit with their sex life and I lent her a dvd - it works for us.. anyway she took it home and he's been sat in front of his laptop w**king, but not involving her, and she'll even wake up to find him doing it in the night - thats not what I intended them to do with it, and now she's in an even worse situation.  I know some men are just different, and I think you need to speak to your other half.  Tell him how you feel - but try not to be too paranoid too - just because he's wa nking over the movie, doesn't mean he thinks their hot girls... when I watch porn I get turned on not because the guys are hot, but just the fact that I'm watching someone else doing it, or imagining me doing it iyswim!! 

Good luck hon, xxx

my dh watches pron, not as much as he used to. he watched it from when he was a teenager, and at first i didnt like it-now i just watch it with him!

Hi,

My hubby watches porn,he used to do it alot afew yrs ago,it hated it,it made me feel unworthy,he used to watch it instead of having sex with me,he used to lie about it,like it was his dirty little secret,i now let him get on with it,he doesnt do it that much, i think thats cos i sed to him just watch it i aint bothered,he doesnt like to watch it together,its just somert to do in his own private time,i encourage it TBH when im out,i tell him to watch it then its good sex for me when i get in second time round always the best

Have a talk with him,tell him how its makin you feel,i was so close to walkng out it got that bad here,watch it with him its fun GOOD LUCK XX

my dh photographs models for websites so he is watching the live version! I know that he would never cheat though because that would be it and he would absolutley hate that! I feel confident about us though so I am not worried. I hate porn too and I hate the fact that he has single mates still who encourage him to watch the filthy stuff!!!!

Hi,im new here,just come for a little advice,i have been with my boyf for 6 yrs,we have a dd together,we get on great,he likes to watch porn,he started watching it 4 yrs ago around the time i was pg wth dd,the first few times i didnt mind a but of harmless porn so what,but he does it alot now and he wont admit  it!

i dont like him watching it,it  doesnt make me feel great about myself,i have put on a little weight,i get so jealous,i know he prefers hot women,with great boobs and bums i havnt got them

he does it when im at work i work 16hrs i sometimes work till 9 if they need me,he looks after DD then puts her to bed and i know he watches that ,to me it seems like he cant wait to watch it

Our sex life is once a week,he always seems tired,but yet he has time to have a quick w*nk over the computer,he is making my like a misery,i feel like crap and the ugliest person ever

what can i do?