thanks all for advice very very helpfull to me think im going to concentrate on me and my son at moment and try and put the past behind me as its the past and should stay in the past and move on as you say time is a healer xx thankyou all

i have had a similar experience. i was with this man since i was 15 (he was 20 at the time)-we were together for 3 years and then 2 more years off and on. we split because it wasnt really a healthy relationship for us both. as with you i would stay at his house A LOT with is parents there too. so when we split it was hard because him and his family took up all my free time, i even neglected my friends. so i had to start from square one. after a few months of not being together we decided to try again, but it was worse than the first time. then bout a year later we tried AGAIN and we just had too much bad feelings/memories for it to work out the way we wanted. i am glad that we tried those last couple times though as i think if we hadnt it would have taken even longer for us to get over eachother. i still talk to him and see him whenever i go to where he lives, but there is no more spark there. after i had my baby i went to visit him and show him my little girl. it was so emotional for me to see him holding my baby girl because we had always talked about having kids and here he his holding another mans baby. my dh gets along with him so thats not an issue. anyways, it wasnt like i wanted him back, it was just weird to remember the old times. however, it did make me realize even more that i am where i am supposed to be in llife and i wouldnt have gotten here if it wasnt for him. i still love him, but it is a completely different kind of love. so as other pp have said, it takes time. but if you want to give it another go then talk to him about it. hth

you'll get over him with time. Time is the best healer. Probably not what you wanna hear right now, you will move on. We've all loved and lost.

Hello hunni, i was with an ex of mine for 4 years and i loved him so much, we broke up because he cheated on me once and it just ate away at me. I was a mess and thought i would never get over losing him and would have done anything to get him back even though it was for the wrong reasons, i was young and spent everynight at his with his parents so when we split up i felt like a part of me was missing. We did get back together for another year but it wasnt the same and so again i went through the process of having to adjust without him. It does take awhile but you do eventually begin to get over them and move on with your life, i still see him about quite abit but i am totally over him now and am in a new relationship and have a little boy. It did take me about a year though to really get over him and be able to look at him without remembering the old times. If you think you and your ex could try again ask him but if you know it would never work then try and look forward and one day you will think about him less and less intill you are over him. It takes awhile to move on from something you had for 5 years and it is hard hunni but you will get there, i never thought i would but you do. You have a lovely child to help you through the dark days and one day you will meet someone new and have a wonderful relationship. xx

i was with my ex for 5 years and i loved him loads i got with him when i was 14 now im 22 and had a child with someone else and i must admit i still love him and carnt let go im 22 now and i wish i was still with him it was my fault we split up cause of my mental illness i was always drinking cus i didnt understand it will i eva get over him please help thanksxxxxxxx