Sorry Hun, just felt I had to reply. Read your post and was gutted that you said you messed up your ex!  Please remember that relationships take TWO! I honestly don't believe that you could have messed him up and really don't want you to enter into another relationship with that on your mind!

On a positive note I believe that everything works out the way it's supposed to (even if it takes a while). 18 months ago I was just finishing a 7 year relationship with someone who, on refelction, wasn't for me at all and was talking/texting a friend of mine who helped me through it all. We bought a house together 6 months later, are now getting married in 7 weeks and 4 weeks ago our georgeous daughter arrived!!!!!

If he makes you feel good about yourself then go for it! Go with the flow hun, learn from past mistakes but DO NOT take all the blame with you (that took me a while to get) what will be will be. HTH

Thankyou for helping me get my head straight!!!!

Just go with the flow, dont expect too much and enjoy having fun!!

god i sound pathetic

At the min we are just fooling about - txts etc he lives quite far away as well . but he makes me feel so .......... hot is the only way i can describe it im like a cat on a hot tin roof :-) i dontthink either of us want to jump into anything too heavy at the mo we are still just getting to know each other ( i really hope that doesnt come across as slapperish as it sounds to me) but i do really like him its nice to feel special again iykwim and not just like the local cash machine

By the last bit i meant, even if it doesnt work out with this new bloke atleast you will have had some fun.

Are you sure your ready for a new relationship yet?

Some people just arent meant to be together and bring out the worst in eachother.

How was your ex when you first got together? Even if it was you who made your ex the way he was (which i very much doubt) who's to say you will do the same with this new bloke?

Go for it, it may not be forever but atleast you will have had some fun.

I know it sounds like im on the rebound but tbh my ex and i have had problems for years the last yr and a half has been hell and he kept sayng its over every arguument even if it was over a cup of tea or something . I havent felt for my ex what i used to for a while hes not the man he used to be he smashed up my house (doors cupboards plates etc) and he has started to get violent towards me too - he hasnt hit me but hes dragged me out of a room by my clothes gripped me up by my throat . this man makes me feel like me again i canlaugh with him and  hes so sweet (hes also a member of my mates family so i know he truly is like that.) what im worried about is my ex never used to be like this - with me anyway apparently he was with other people what if its me that made him like this i dont want to make the other one like it to

I say, stay single for ever. Men cause more trouble than their worth.

No, seriously, go for it!! If you mess him up so be it

Hi Ya I have posted loads of times on this thread about my ex we have split up now 4 weeks ago but hes not moving outtil this weekend cos he had nomoney. I have met a new bloke that makes me laugh and feel so special but im worried i might ruin his life like my exes - they are nothing alike and i have so much in common with him do i just throw caution to the wind and go for it or should i stay clear in case i mess him up too?