Jazz

My wife used to say the same. I'd come home from a stressful job and just want to let my mind ease down a bit, sit in from of the telly etc, but would have my wife nagging in my ear all the time. Maybe i was a bit unfair as she was home all day and just wanted some non-baby company, whilst i just wanted a break from everyone, even if it was 30 mins in front of the tv watching Simpsons, or Southpark or Family Guy. After that i'd be happy to natter, but she never saw it from my point of view. I was always in the wrong, no matter how much i tried to justify to her that i just wanted a little rest.

My advice to you (being in your hubby position) is you should let him come home and chill for a bit on front of the telly, just let him wind down. You have some "me" time, go online, read a girly mag, watch some porn, pick your nose, smell your socks....whatever makes you relax. Then you guys can sit down together and watch TV, or have a chat, a kiss and a cuddle. and a bit of cunoodling.

Thanks everyone, I'll give your ideas a try and hope my dp gets the hint and starts to  make time for me again....it' a nice thought !

I havebeen there and done it, got the t shirt.

Best thing to do like eastern says.... get a nice meal cooking and tell him to look after the kids. Put Fun radio on throught the tv, my kids love that.

He might find it fun doing something different. Then he has a nice meal waiting too.

"I too am shattered but want to make an effort"

That kind of says it all, really. Yes you are tired, all of us stay at home parents are, (I look after three boys, eleven, three and twenty months) and i sometimes feel like i cant be bothered, but i still make the effort. You dont have to make THAT much of an effort. Make his favorite meal at the table by cadle light, a little bit of mood music, and then see what happened. Maybe he'll notice, or maybe he'll need a nudge. Who knows? But remember, he's tired too. He just might need a hint.

I'm a new mum whose dp arrives home from work and spends the evening glued to the tv, there's three in our relationship and I lose out to the tv everytime! I have to repeat myself so many times that I give up in the end ! After looking after our ds all day is it too much to ask for some conversation and maybe some romance on an evening? I too am shattered but want to make an effort, feeling pretty lonely at the moment, has anyone any ideas?