Hiya

How old is your lo? Mine is 1 next week and although i'm getting better i still don't enjoy sex as much as before either. I'm very concious that i'm 'bigger' down there after a 3rd degree tear. Everything is fine as far as i'm aware, no discomfort or anything but i'm convinced it's rubish for him even though he says it's not. I think it'll just take time. I wasn't mega confident before lo was born, but was getting better, now i feel like i've taken 2 steps backwards in that respect.

It's good that your dp is kind about it, just talk to him seriously about how you feel, i found it so much better once we'd talked about it properly. x

Before my LO came along I loved sex I was confident and to be honest would give anything a go. But now I feel shy and ashamed of my body after a extended cut in labour I feel I look horrid and hate the thought of him touching me there let alone seeing me. Talked to the doctor about this but they dont seem to be taking me serious I dont know what to do my husbend says Im been daft and is so kind but cant shake these feelings.