hey hun howz things going???

(((((hugs)))))

You said that you aren't going to tell your family but I think you should. You need support when the new baby arrives. You don't even know that the birth will go smoothly, what if you were to end up having a c-section? I don't mean to scare you but you really need family around if your husband isn't going to be there. So what if they think he's being a selfish pig, he is, so he can hardly expect them to think differently.

What a selfish, inconsiderate ******

I MIGHT have been able to understand if t was a close relative, who was maybe elderly or something, but it sounds to me like he just wants to go off on his jollies!!

If my OH even tried that, he would be out the door as soon as he had booked those tickets. If he wanted to work things out, he would cancel, If he wanted to go he would be single.

Leaving you with a newborn and older kids fr christmas and new year is just not what any decent guy who loves his family would do.

Ps - If/when he does go, I hope you have other people tht you can either invite over or spend the day with?

I wouldn't bother telling him that that is what you plan to do, I would turff his sorry ass out the day he goes to london!

He's your husband and made vows to care for you and support you yet, he left you with harly any money while he swanned off on his jollies only to come back and announce, "Darling, I'm going on holiday on xmas day, so you have a lovely xmas alone with the kids and the newborn all by yourself, without my help and support and I will see you in the new year".. WTF!!

Does he not know how demaning a newborn is, let alone 2 toddlers to deal with at the same time. And what if you have a C-Section? What if it gets infected? What if you're at home and you have an accident and there is no-one around? Help will only come when the neigjbours hear the newborn screaming for days on end.. Has he not thought of all this? If he is not thinking about you now how will he ever think about you in the future!!

Let him go on his holidays, he will regret it when he comes back and you've turfed him out!!

tbh i don't blame you. i probably would be doing same.

have you told him you are planning to do this if he goes? it might just keep him at home.

ive already had words with him and he thinks im being moody/hormonal and selfish. so he went ahead and booked it anyway last night!

the thing that worries me is i may not have even had the baby by the time he goes away as my other 2 were late! god knows what im gonna do, i cant even tell my family that im gonna be by myself as they already get annoyed with him and i dont want them knowing what he puts me through.

i think i will bepacking his stuff while his away and start afresh by kicking his sorry a$$ out, and start new year with a fresh new start me and my my children!

you're not being unreasonable.

there is no way i would let my hubbie do that. and i dont think he would do that anyway. ever 2nd year he has to work on christmas day and he hates being away from home.

think you need to have a good long talk to him about this. if you are due a baby on 12th december there is no way he should be leaving you so soon. does he not want to spend time with new baby?? also you r gonna need help. you have to put your foot down and say no. tell him to wait till end january/february.

good luck xxxxxxxxxx

my not so darling husband really annoys me, he went away for a month in sept to see his family who live abroad. i couldnt really say or do much about it as he misses them, but he went away to enjoy himself and left me with no money  i only had my child tax credits to live on. he has just announced that he is going to sweden to go see a cousin (who he has hardly spoke to in the past 8yrs) he flies out early morn on 26th dec get back 10th jan, it will mean that he will be going down to london on xmas day to stay with his friends ready to fly out the next day.

the thing that hurts me is im pregnant, im due 12th dec i also have 2 other children 1 18months, 1 5yrs, he isnt gonna be here at xmas, and im gonna be left by myself over what is meant to be family time. i cant stop crying and getting worked up about it and he thinks im being selfish not letting him go see his cousin and having a nice new yr. he thinks im jealous.

im not being unreasonable am i? that i dont want him going away?