i've had problems like this for nearly 5 years.

it started mid way through my 1st pregnancy and ok it has got slightly better its still not back to what it was.

was feelin a bit down the other night cos he quite often seemed to have problem reaching climax when we was having sex and i got it into my head that i wasn't tight enough since having lo's and that was why he never wanted sex much.

we had sex that night and it seemed to be happening again and i burst into tears mid flow. told him what was wrong and he said that was rubbish then couple of mins later he said i'd put him off and he went to sleep. that upset me more. then on friday we had a talk before he went to work and said i was fine down there its just he is not young anymore and doesn't get the desire as much as before and is nothing to do with me. hope he is being truthful.

sorry if tmi

if you wanna chat pm me xxx

Thats a bit weird...... i posted the thread just b4 yours.... read it!!  Almost exactly the same!  I know just what your going through, i had the same experience and now my LO is 3 months old and still things aren't back to normal.  He kept promising me things would go back to normal but they never have, i dont know why... exactly the same too, he's quite happy to sort himself out with some porn... it's just pure laziness.  If they cant be arsed to make the effort then neither can i anymore!  I've always said i'd give it till after christmas, if then he still thinks it's perfectly normal to go from having sex at least once a day to once a month he'll have to go and talk to someone and if he wont then i'm off!  What p****s me off the most is the fact he has actually said "he cant be bothered"  so that  means he cant be bothered to make an effort for the person he loves.  It's no wonder we feel insecure... and we get the blame for it!

pm me if you wanna chat x

me and dp have always had a healthy sex life until i found out i was pregnant. i completly understand why he feels uncomfortable having sex. i miscarried earlier this year and hes scared of hurting the baby. i totally understand that. but theres other ways of showing affection. hes just not interested.

when i was 3 months pregnant i found out he watches porn. he says hes always watched it. i accepted it although i found it hard. at that point in my pregnancy i felt very insecure anyway.

i feel worse than ever about it now because he not interested in me yet he will watch porn. im 99% certain our sex life wil never go back to being healthy after bubs is born. i start counciling on monday (although he doesnt no this yet) alot happened in my past that has made me insecure and this has made it worse.

is there anyone that relationships suffered this way during pregnancy and has gone back to having a healthy sex life after???

sorry for long post just feel really down atm