Just txt her from his phone and invite her to yours, same day no warning, turn his phone off so she can't ring him back etc! See what happens with your husbands face if and when she turns up. It will tell you what a thousand words can not.

If he has friends it is time you met them as well, you should get a sitter and go along with him to meet them. To be honest having close friends that are of the oposite sex that your other half doesn't get to meet is asking for a lot of trouble.

Emma

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My dp has alot of female friends but he don’t see them as they live far.  I speak to most of my dp friends aswell not worried about some of them. One or two was funny but cool with it now.

I know how you feel about friends becoming lovers. Put it this way does he put them female friends before you. If not you should not worry. Does he cancel things with you because of female friends. If not then you should not worry.

Yeah I do believe friends can become lovers as this happened with me and dp. We were friends for abit then we got together. He known these friends for ages but I sometimes think are they on standby until we finished do you get me.

Now I am over it because of all our probs and realised he does love me and only me.

Thank you all for the replies they have helped shed some light and will help me deal with this problem.

Ok, yeah, agree with the others.. Invite yourself along to see the 'one' that you are concerned about... Find out for yourself exacty what is going on... If he is shifty about it, you know it is time to pack his bags and fling him out.. If he lets you go, ask her why she is making these demands on your husband,,

Yeah i think you should invite yourself along too. See how he reacts

Why is he spending time speaking to other women and texting them? Does he not have anything better to do with his time? He it totally out of order!!

Also are they work collegues? Or freinds from the past? Or women he has met while out with 'the boys'?

He should be spending his time with you? Have you told him how you feel?

I don't see why random women are just calling him for a chat? And does he actually arrange for dates with them while you are there?

Maybe he is an Escort? Sounds as though he is making appointments with all these women calling him.

He obviously has no respect for you, and I would say he probably doesn't love you, if he cared for you he wouldn't do it!

No i'm not friends with the women and yeah they know i exist. Some of the calls are ok really but there is one that calls and texts him begging him to come over but they say they just friends so thats why am freaking out.

Are you friends wth the women? in other words do they know you exist?

So these calls are just you general, run of the mill conversations that a person could have with either séx in a friendly, non séxual way??

Thanks, guess i have to watch my step else i will push him away coz i just get annoyed by the fone calls coz he has done nothing to suggest he's been cheating.

Ok are these friendly conversations or are they dirty calls. Just friendly ones then you need to back up and chill out, tbh. People of the oposite séx can have platonic relationships that never will develop into anything else. I have several of my own. We chat all the time on the phone and we make plans. I have a few that will come to mine on Christmas day because as far as we are concerned we are family.

However, you constantly accusing him of scréwing these girls will only push him to them.

If these are séxual conversations, well stop being a doormat and show him the door.

A marriage, like any relationship needs trust. Once the trust is gone then you have to look deep within yourself and the relationship to establish where this bond went.

Please help, my husband has girlfriends that call him and spend time with him on the fone while i sit next to him. This has been eating me up real bad, i have told him how i feel bout it and he says they just friends.... nothing more and of course i believe him but cant stand hearing them chatting away and making appointments to meet. I would prefer not knowing anything bout his girlfriends coz i know anything can happen one day they're friends the next lovers. Please tell me am i wrong to think this way, and if it was any of you out there would you be cool to be having your husband entertain other ladies over the fone. Please let me know what you think and how i should deal with it. Thank you